...virgin...help please - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

Girlie_303 · 07-30-2004, 11:07 PM

Im a virgin and im really scared having sex for the first time will hurt

and i was just wondering if there was any way that like i could do something-kind of 'break myself in' maybe-(masturbating or using a ***** of some sort-even tho i have no idea where i would get one) so when i did it for the first time it could be more of a...pleasurable experience instead of painful?? well if anyone has any ideas-please share

thanks a lot!

ScaredKitty · 07-31-2004, 05:21 AM

Have your boyfriend at the time, 'stretch' you with his fingers. It wont be quite the same, but it will help a little. It might not even hurt for you, some girls dont feel any pain. If you still have a hymen, it will be painful almost for sure. But theres so many ways for it to break, that you might not have one anymore. And don't worry about the pain, it goes away eventually. Just go slow, and if it hurts too much stop and try again another day, just ease into it and it shouldnt be so bad.

icis · 07-31-2004, 08:55 AM

My boyfriend had fingered me many times prior to our first time, and I had used my fingers on myself a little too. When I first had sex, I felt zero pain.

Keb5890 · 08-02-2004, 11:21 AM

You should finger yourself everyday to try and loosen up your vagina. Also have him do it as well. If you are doing it yourself you can ease in and not have to worry about how fast or hard your partner is going. Also dildos/vibrators do work great.

Girlie_303 · 08-02-2004, 10:57 PM

other than sex, how else is it possible to break the hymen?