Is this normal? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

Shadowdogg78 · 09-16-2004, 05:54 PM

When I masturbate, I think of this one person.Thinking of this person doing something to me brings me to climax.But after that, I think that person doing that to me is disgusting, and I feel sick thinking about it.I know Im not gay, but is this normal?

Magnetic · 09-16-2004, 07:43 PM

Maybe not exactly normal, but not exactly abnormal, either. Many boys will have same-sex fantasies and not grow up gay. If you like girls and have normal fantasies and relationships with them, you are "normal", and homosexual fantasies will eventually go away or decrease in frequency. If you are in denial about being gay, you will eventually come to terms with it.

danbob1088 · 09-16-2004, 08:02 PM

Magnetic, when you say in denial about being gay, does that mean that he/she is not attracted to the opposite sex, but doesn't want to say they aren't? Or, in better terms, that he/she is attracted to the same sex all the time and not the opposite sex at all? He/she would know if this were true would they not? Wanted to clarify for shadowdogg in case he was wondering.

Magnetic · 09-17-2004, 05:08 PM

By being in denial, I mean that he might happen to think he is straight and that he really likes girls, but in reality he really likes guys, but he just doesn't realize it yet or can comes to terms with it yet. Many gay teens go through this phase - they don't want to admit to being gay, so they deny it for a while. This may not be the case at all here - he may indeed be straight and this is just a fantasy that he will outgrow. I think many stright guys, especially in their teens, do have homosexual fantasies.

If he has normal fantasies of women, then he is most likely straight. Since he says he is disgusted with his fantasy, I suspect he IS straight.

uchimama · 09-18-2004, 04:07 PM

My shrink once told me that many women fantasize about being raped. This by NO MEANS signifies a secret wish to be raped. It's just considered a taboo in your own mind so it's exciting. You're perfectly normal. I've been fantisizing about the same sex for as long as I can remember but I've never acted on it and doubt if I ever would.