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Old 11-27-2005, 03:50 PM   #1
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Unhappy long vaginal lips

im really insecure about my inner vaginal lips. they have been stretched out of their normal shape and now they are about 4cm. i have a boyfriend and im scared of him seeing it. we have done stuff before, just it was in the dark and he never really saw what they looked like. im only 1*, all my friends dont have this problem and im afraid he will think i have something wrong with me. also when i wear togs or tight clothing, it is noticeable as they hang down further then normal. wat the hell should i do??

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Old 11-27-2005, 11:37 PM   #2
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Re: long vaginal lips

He won't care, I know I wouldn't.

 
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Old 11-28-2005, 05:23 AM   #3
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Re: long vaginal lips

I assume you are talking about the labia minora??? I have the same problem...I'm 51...on my 2nd marriage...my current hubby thinks it is beautiful...I think that most men will not care...My husband thinks it is sexy to have an enlarged labia minora.

I also have an enlarged clitoris...but my labia minora is very large ( I have never had it measured, but it is large)...has always hung down...in my "thin" days I could not wear tight pants...I could never were thongs)...it was noticeable and my pants would rub and irritate me.


I always hated it ( I can symphathize with you)...when I was a teen and went over to other girls house and spent the night(which was frequent)...girls always undressed together and even showered together...I was the only one like that and was made fun of and felt like I was a freak or abnormal...then when I saw pictures and did research I see that other women are just like me !!

Clitorises and labia minoras come in all shapes & sizes just like men's genitals do. It is nothing to be ashamed of...I know there is a reduction surgery that is done to reduce the inner lips (labia minora). I too, was always embarrassed and felt like I could never let anyone see me down there. But I delivered 2 healthy children and no doctor ever mentioned anything to me...and like I said my hubby loves it.

If someone really likes or loves you and cares about you...it won't matter..they will like you for you and not the size of your genitalia. I know it is a hard thing to discuss...I never talked to anyone about it until I started dating my second husband...I was 39. Please, don't be embarrassed about who you are. See a doctor if you think there is something that can be done...maybe they can help reassure you.
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Old 11-28-2005, 10:29 AM   #4
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Re: long vaginal lips

lil_miss...
I think you are worrying too much. I'm sure you're fine just the way you are. I wouldn't mind or say anything.

 
Old 11-28-2005, 10:53 AM   #5
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Re: long vaginal lips

I too have a stretched looking inner labia. I used to think it was odd and I would be belittled for it. But after I dated a few men, as time went on, I noticed those men never commented, nor complained in the slightest. I have been married twice(now 34) and I have had both husbands think it is sexy as h**l. Be proud of your body. I must add also, that when you start thinking that men dont like that and would prefer a "normal" looking labia, that I also felt that way. Then I noticed that most men preferred me over many other girls they had dated. Stop worrying about whats "normal" and be proud of your difference. As you get older, you will see that men don't care what it looks like as much as how it works and that they are getting it...LOL
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Old 11-28-2005, 11:45 AM   #6
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Re: long vaginal lips

I noticed mine at age 10...........(im now 33) it FREAKED ME OUT!!! So, for many years i was totally insecure! Every womans vagina is completely different, i think what we do as women is compare..............to porn and mag's..........which women's labia's look perfect, and definately arent hanging down! No wonder why we think we look freaky??? Im starting to accept it, as i get older.........this has never bothered any men that i have been with-----at least i dont think it did! If they would have said anything rude, i would have slammed them anywayz! I went to a PS and had a consultation to get labiaplasy...............im still thinking about it, cuz it is very scary surgery.....to me! Actually my problem is, one side is longer than the other, so if i just got the 1 side trimmed they wouldnt be too long! You would be absolutely amazed how many women's labia's are just like our's! Look on the cosmetic surgery board, awhile back there was ton's of information on this. {removed}

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Old 11-28-2005, 02:39 PM   #7
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Re: long vaginal lips

Few guys will care and some even like it. In all probability, he will be more concerned about what you are thinking about the size of his penis than he will be thinking about the size of your labia lips.

 
Old 11-28-2005, 02:49 PM   #8
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Re: long vaginal lips

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Few guys will care and some even like it. In all probability, he will be more concerned about what you are thinking about the size of his penis than he will be thinking about the size of your labia lips.
How true!! LOL

 
Old 11-28-2005, 05:04 PM   #9
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I've NEVER heard or read anything that even suggests that guys don't like that! The only complaints ever issued that I know about originate from WOMEN! I've never given mine a second thought. I can't imagine any guy not finding that intensely sexy!!!

 
Old 11-29-2005, 10:31 PM   #10
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maybe wearing tight underwear would help? I'm thinking about when men wear boxers as opposed to briefs. Don't their testicles "hang" more with the boxers? and the briefs just hold it all up? What sorta underwear are you wearing now?

 
Old 11-29-2005, 10:34 PM   #11
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Re: long vaginal lips

yer i wear pretty tight underwear... but im not that worried about that situation... im more scared of wat my boyfriend will think of them =(

 
Old 11-29-2005, 10:38 PM   #12
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who cares? why worry needlessly about it....do you have any control over what he thinks? If he says that they are the longest he's seen....then just say, Well I guess I am more woman that anyone else. And be done with it.

 
Old 11-30-2005, 12:47 AM   #13
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Re: long vaginal lips

Not afraid to say that I have the same thing going on there. My husband thinks it is beautiful too. Like a poster said before, if it really is uncomfortable or bothers you so much, there is surgery they can do to reduce it. A friend of mine did that. Not me though!
Wishing your well!

 
Old 11-30-2005, 01:31 AM   #14
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I don't think I can get surgery on it at my age! I'm only 16... and I can't tell my parents about it, too embarrasing!

 
Old 11-30-2005, 05:06 AM   #15
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Re: long vaginal lips

I understand that this is a very delicate subject...I also could have never talked to my mother about this or had an operation...especially as a teen...heck I never did mention this to my mother.

I think you are worrying unnecessarily...your BF probably could care less and your stressing over something that you have no control over...please don't drive yourself crazy...an enlarged labia is part of who you are... he might find it sexy like my husband does.

If your boyfriend really likes you and cares about you...I don't think he will even mention it to you...would you mention to him..."Hey, your penis is not quite the size I expected"?? I doubt it...you would never want to hurt his feeling or make him feel inadequate or crush his ego.... and he more than likely would not want to do the same to you.

There is much more to a relationship then the size of anyone's genitalia. sooner or later it will not matter to you at all...it doesn't to me anymore...and I was just like you when I was a teen...blew it all out of proportion...relax.. enjoy your teenagehood... don't let this control your life. let us know how things go with your BF. I promise...you will be okay.
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