im 18 and my GF doesn't like sex or getting fingered, ONLY having oral performed on her. This is fine with me, because i always do this then we have sex, even though she does not enjoy it. But ALOT of times, after im done performing oral on her, i dont and cant get an erection anymore and she doesnt help by asking y i cant get hard, and other things that make me uncomfortable. Today i couldnt get it up after performing oral on and we were lying down 2gether and she started saying how gross and disgusting penises were. She says things like that and now i dont want to be sexual at all with her! We have been going out for 2 years, and i dont want this to break us up, but please, any suggestions?
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That's really weird because I have never met a girl who thought that it was 'gross'. You can maybe try telling her that sex is a mutual contract between 2 individuals and if one isn't willing, then the other will not be very satisfied, but relationships don't souly revolve around sex, don't forget that. If you really like this girl and she is really that uncomfortable about it, then you shouldn't force her, because she might start thinking you're only in it for the sex and break up with you, but then again a man can't really go forever without sex, so either you 2 work something out or you live a life of chastity my friend, there's no simpler way of putting it, good luck though!
Im also scared when we go to college she will have sex with other guys (we were and have been each others firsts) and she will enjoy it more, but all i try to do is please her, but she tells me to get off as soon as possible during sex........... please help
If you trust each other and she is honest and she loves you she won't go have sex with other guys. If you have been dating for 2 years you should know what she is like though so if she is flirty or something then that could be a sign, but I'm sure she will be loyal to you. I know a really good trick to get the girl to want to have sex with you though because my boyfriend does this to me all the time. He acts like he doesn't want to have sex and just goes about his daily business and then I'm like please have sex with me!! So just play hard to get even if you don't want to. I know it's hard (no pun intended) but just try it. Also maybe she is just having a stressful time in her life or is exhausted when you want to do it or maybe you are not in sync with her sex drive so there are a number of things that could make her not want to have sex, but good luck!
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