Losing respect after sexual contact
I recently read a post where someone asked:
I'm so confused right now. My boyfriend and I did oral sex last week and he told me he enjoyed it and all that jazz. Well up until a few days ago he was talking about what he wanted to try next time. And as of a few days ago he acts like he's afraid to be alone with me. He still talks to me and says I love you, but wont be alone in a personal setting. I've talked to him and he says nothings wrong but...I don't know what to do it's driving me insane!!
Someone responded with:
Guilt might be the problem. Or maybe he is concerned about how to proceed the next time, or he is embarassed about something. Ease up on him for a while and let things settle down. If he initiated it the first time, he may soon bring it up again, but not until after you ease up. And, too, sometimes when a boy has sex with a girl, even oral, he loses respect for her, even though it was his idea. I hope that is not the case here, but it has happend many, many times before.
This really scares me. Sometimes guys lose respect for girls after sex or oral sex????? My boyfriend and I kiss and everything, but I'm afraid he'll lose respect for me if I give him oral sex or anything. He calls me cute all the time and respects me a lot now. I don't want anything to ruin that. Can anyone please tell me anything about this whole losing respect issue after sex/oral sex???? Please, your help is appreciated.