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Old 08-02-2006, 06:34 AM   #1
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Red face GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

My gf was asking me what i would like as a b-day idea for me(something sexual) and I said, as a joke, how about a threesome with another women. She took it seriously. She is somewhat bi-sexual. She was acually going to ask one of her friends to hook us up with a bi-sexual girl. When she told me this, i got to thinking, and I told her this that I wouldnt be comfortable with another women seeing me naked, because, to me, i feel small down there(im around 5-5.5 inches long, and only 1 and half around) Well she said that they will just do a show for me. What im worried about there is that she might leave me for her becasue she might be able to please her better than me(i am very insecure like that because of a lifetime for teasing, since pre-school) She told me not to be silly, and that she loves me too much to leave me for any reason, and that forget about that idea. Now my question is that is this normal at all(the fact of a male like me turning this down)? Should i just let her do a show for me with another girl(knowing me, my insecurity will fly out of the window when i see this and join in anway)? Am i just being a worry wort about her leaving because of this for that other women? Also, is this a normal idea for couples to do?

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Old 08-02-2006, 09:31 AM   #2
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

Stop being insecure. Most guys would kill for a threesome like that. If your gf truly loves you, she wouldn't leave you over something stupid like that, and if she does leave you over something pathetic like that, then that's just her problem.

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Old 08-02-2006, 01:31 PM   #3
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

I wouldn't be so concerned. What are the chances of your girlfriend actually finding a bi-sexual girl for this anyway? And, if you don't want it to happen, why not just explain that to your girlfriend and tell her what you really want for your birthday. It sounds like you're afraid to communicate with her and that's not good. If you're having this much anxiety about it that you're posting here, I think you should speak up to your girlfriend and tell her what you think, instead of us. Hope that helps!

And is this normal--threesomes? I'd say not so much. It's definately not something the majority of committed couples do. I know lots of couples who have wanted to try it but couldn't find a third partner who was willing. I know guys who fantasize about it but their partner doesn't agree, so its just one of those fantasy things. I also know guy who wouldn't want to participate, so you're not weird at all to feel this way. You can tell your girlfriend that you don't want to see her being intimate with someone else -- even if its a girl -- because you love her very much and want to be her "only one" -- or something to that regard.

 
Old 08-02-2006, 02:57 PM   #4
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

Eric-
You have made it clear that you are insecure about certain things and are already questioning whether your gf will decide she likes being with this other girl (if she is able to get another girl) more than she will like being with you.

If you are already worrying about the two of you being together after a possible threesome, then maybe you should tell her you really don't want this afterall.

I have never understood why people want to actually go through with a threesome because many times it does cause problems afterward. Not that I'm judging, because it's not my place. There are people who enjoy having threesomes and live the "swingers" life, but it just isn't for me. I love my husband and he loves me and we both want to ONLY be with each other. Sex is something he and I share with only each other and aren't interested in bringing someone else into our intimate life.

What ever you decide, just make sure you are prepared for the insecure feelings you have now to continue. Like I said, if you are already insecure about the relationship lasting because you fear she will want to be with the other girl more than she wants you, I don't think you will be feeling any less insecure afterwards....

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Old 08-03-2006, 09:39 PM   #5
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

Most girls really don't really care how big a guys penis is, many women are insecure about breast size and at least I know that I put little importance on that. If your girlfriend is willing to have a threesome, it shows that she is secure that you love her enough not to go after another girl. I wouldn't turn something like that down, porn has lead to a deceptive image of the male genitalia, most guys are around 5.5 inches long (I have heard). As far as not feeling adequate, most of my gf's best orgasms have happened without any penetration at all. Have fun experience these things, most guys wont get that chance, and once it starts I bet it will be a lot easier to get into!

Hope it works out!

 
Old 08-04-2006, 12:28 AM   #6
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

This is going to end bad, I can see.

Even if its only for the reason that your insecure about her leaving you for the woman. Who needs that extra reason for insecruity? Dont put yourself in a situation that you know will make you insecure.
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Old 08-04-2006, 06:35 AM   #7
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

Thank you all for the advice. I told her that, well, excatly what i type down first off, that i wouldnt be able to stand seeing another person to be sexually intimate with her. Also, about me insecurity, which she knows and understands. She said she will just have to go to plan B(which i suggested), strip tease. Its funny to see that the males that replied said go for it, and the females say only if your okay with it.

 
Old 08-30-2006, 10:08 PM   #8
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Re: GF took sex idea for my b-day seriously

That's a tough one...One of my best friends, who is a girl that I would totally be with if I were a lesbian, wanted me to have a threesom with her and her then boyfriend. I didn't think MY man would be very OK with me doing that, so I declined. They ended up doing it with someone else later on down the road, and it just turned out to be a big mess. Someone's boyfriend was jelous, someone got mad, etc. I'm just glad I didn't (literally) get stuck in the middle of it.

 
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