How do I improve? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

T'ien · 12-19-2006, 12:04 AM

I recently turned 18 and I've been having sex with my girlfriend for about 3 months now. She is 17 and we have a really good relationship but I can't seem to satisfy her sexually when we are having sex. She says she enjoys it because we care about each other but she never gets orgasmic feelings. Her clitoris is very sensitive and we have no problem with oral sex but I still wish I could somehow improve so that she also reaches orgasm during sexual intercourse. I know that for some women it is very difficult and sometimes near impossible to reach orgasm when having sex but there must be a way to attain it? What can I do to make it better or should I just drop it? It would make it so much better for me just to know that I am pleasing her sexually and perhaps she would be more compelled to have sex with me more often. I hate to admit it but I sometimes have problems with pride and this seems to fall into that situaiton. I am also somewhat of a perfectionist and that is why it bothers me a great deal. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Unsure_88 · 12-19-2006, 10:25 AM

Only 15-20% of woman can actually orgasm during sex, sometimes there is nothing that you can do. You just have to live with it because she may never feel that way during sex.... But you just have to ask her and see what makes her feel good, thats the best way you can tell what to do...and nothing is ever going to be perfect no matter how hard you try, so don't view it that way in every situation.

tommy124 · 12-19-2006, 10:32 AM

[deleted] Other than that, it seems you are satisfying her well, and isn't mutual happiness what it is all about?

collegegal · 12-19-2006, 09:26 PM

Hi! Like said before, many women do not orgasm during intercourse. ONe thing I have found useful is being in control myself. Try letting her be in control (without trying to please you), and see if she can find her g spot. It may take several tries before it works, but it will be worth it in the end! Hope that helps.

Dantheinsane · 12-20-2006, 06:03 PM

The typical thing with teenagers doing sex, and I was included in this, is that they tend to go very fast. They rush it because they don't know any better.

Another mistake is for men to think woman want the same thing. Woman loved to be loved. If I get romantic with my wife first, and make her feel loved, I am halfway there. And the other half doesn't have to do with pounding pentrations but through slow and easy loving.

Sometimes the stinky bodies don't help at all, a shower to get warmed up with both of you helps.

Throwing caution to the wind by using oral sex to warm her up. Not you because the wind can warm you up. These should help and just don't hurry and always make her feel loved.