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Old 04-09-2007, 07:52 PM   #1
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First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

I do not know what the problem is but i had sex for the first time today and my first attempt lasted 30 seconds, then my second attempt lasted just about the same 30 seconds (happened about an hour and a half later). I also found it difficult to get me back up the second time. I am 18, maybe its because i havent masturbated for maybe 4-5 days prior to this, but whenever i go for a second time it always made me last much longer.

Its extremely embarassing, prematurely finishing twice in less than two hours. Does anyone know why this is happening, or does anyone have advice on how i can hold myself up longer? Thanks, its just embarassing and kind of urgent.

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Old 04-10-2007, 05:00 PM   #2
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

pre-mature ejaculation sounds like your problem, the first time i saw a vagina i ejaculated without even masterbating fortunately i was watching a blue movie alone

first time sex is always embarising and over way quicker than you want it to be. i remember my testerone at your age i wanted to rut with every female on the planet! then when i had sex for the first time when i was 19 i was like a shark on a leash it was no wonder i pre-came and it was over within 5 minutes! next time you have goto the toilet before you get intermit don't smoke and definately dont drink both these give you "brewers droop".

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Old 04-10-2007, 11:13 PM   #3
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

I think masturbation is the key. If my husband hasn't been masturbating enough, he usually finishes quickly when we have sex, especially if we haven't done it for awhile.

 
Old 04-11-2007, 12:35 PM   #4
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

It is not unusual to ejaculate very soon after penetration the first few times; after all it's a new experience for your entire body even if you have been masturbating for some time.

 
Old 04-11-2007, 04:58 PM   #5
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

Anything like food or water matters? Or maybe its just a disorder that medicine or nutrients that can help last longer?

 
Old 04-11-2007, 11:37 PM   #6
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

from a personal standpoint, i have never had an issue with ejaculating too quick, and i think that it is due in part that ihad seen tuns of porn before i became sexually active, and in turn nothing really catches me off guard and i feel comfortable in any situation.

however an argument to this is it may desensitize you to the point to where your average girl just wont do it for you. so im thinking its just about a balance of all things, including masturbating at least every other day, and just being comfortable with your sexuality, and your partners as well.

another thing id say is engage in more foreplay, become familar with oral sex, a lot of girls wont climax with straight up penetration anyways

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Old 04-12-2007, 08:32 AM   #7
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

I think the foreplay could be the problem, that lasted awhile and sort of had me running for awhile so it lasted short. I can understand prematurely finishing once, but twice in less than two hours? Normally i would masturbate a normal amount of time, 6 times out of a 7 day week or so, but then recently i havent really been able to do that so i didnt masturbate for nearly a week so that could be why it was so fast.

Is there any way i can be sure it lasts longer? Like is there a certain chemical i can find in foods or something that can delay it, or should i make sure not to eat/drink certain things?

 
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

I don't know if condoms are an option for you, but my husband and I use them for birth control and they have the added benefit of helping him last longer.

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Old 04-13-2007, 07:05 AM   #9
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

Is there like a nutrient or something that makes it last shorter/longer? Like iron or something, if i have enough of that will it stop it. Or if i drink more fluids/less fluids prior?

 
Old 04-16-2007, 06:42 AM   #10
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

Yeah any kind of sexual acts thats not masturbation, i cant last long at all. Im wondering what i can do because its getting a bit embarrassing.

 
Old 04-16-2007, 09:55 AM   #11
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maybe you should try different positions?? i'm not sure how much this will help with your situation, but you never know until you try!

 
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

This is all new to your body, and it takes time. Other positions was a good suggestion. Condoms was also a good suggestion! One more suggestion is to pay close attention to how excited you are getting, and learn to pull out when things get to hot! Give a little more foreplay to cool down, then you can start again. The answer in a nut shell is technique! Learn to use these different methods in your love making, and you will keep going/lasting, like the Energizer Bunny. Remember to slow down, paying close attention to your body! Sometimes, women can get you in certain positions that getting you going faster than you would like! Lol..

 
Old 04-18-2007, 09:40 PM   #13
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Re: First time having sex, cannot last long at all.

What about masturbating once or twice a few hours prior to anything happening. That'd help, wouldnt it?

 
Old 04-20-2007, 03:42 PM   #14
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i think that if you masterbate like 20 minutes or so before you have sex it makes you last longer

 
Old 04-21-2007, 07:33 AM   #15
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hey lazer maybe it's not you who has a problem...maybe it's her anatomy. Try what the posters are saying about condoms and so forth but keep in mind that it may be different with someone else. I never had a problem but once i met up with this girl and the moment i penetrated it was over. I couldn't believe it. We got together probably 10x's and it happened every time. I think she had like a bone running across the top of her opening or something. Whatever it was, I couldn't last more than 10 strokes or even less. I finally gave up and moved on.

 
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