what's wrong with me? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

matt89 · 05-13-2007, 09:31 PM

so i dont know what it is.

me and my girlfriend have been dating for a couple months now and when she gives me a handjob at first usually theres no problem, she does good, but eventually i lose my erection and sometimes i get it back, but usually i just lose it again, and it sucks cause its happened a couple times before and its hard to focus cause im worried about it happening haha...and then it happens.

it really bothers me because she thinks shes doing a bad job and she's really not. i dont want her to feel like she sucks and i know she does think that way. but ive never reached an orgasm from her yet. and i feel like its my fault.

i know that when i masturbate i usually cradle "my boys" with my free hand...and im used to doing that...so idk if its bc she doesnt do that...so i've actually tried masturbating without doing that...hoping to break the habit s that i dont "need" it...idk if its cuz im nervous with her or what...

someone give me some advice or help me out...i dont want her to think she sucks anymore and it doesnt matter what i say...she won't believe me.

andreanna · 05-13-2007, 10:33 PM

Gosh that's a difficult one.

As girls we do feel self conscience about how well we do. Try not to think about what might happen and just enjoy what is happening at that point.

woodyman · 05-14-2007, 09:23 AM

You cant be scared to ask her to go slower, be more rough, go in a different rhythm. You arent saying she is bad at it, I am pretty sure she will appreciate the knowledge that she is then able to please you as best as she can.

My girlfriend tells me what she likes...its the only way of knowing if what you are doing is feeling nice.

tUrRrRa · 05-14-2007, 09:50 PM

I know this is way easier said than done, but not thinking about it will DEFINITELY make it easier. I know it's really hard to not worry about that kind of thing though! Just try and maybe with time you will be able to relax more.

Maybe you can simply tell your girlfriend that it feels great but you touch yourself differently and that's the only reason why you think you haven't been able to finish. You can always guide her hand and show her what you like. Just make sure you don't criticize what she does or then she will feel bad!