well i've been having sex for the last 3 months and i do enjoy it but my boyfriend tends to finish to fast i dont know if he comes too fast cuz i make him come fast or cuz he cant hold it but i really need help. i think i've never reach an "orgasm" cuz in the best part he finishes :S i would like to knoe a way to make him last longer!!!!!!!!!!!helppppppppppppppp
Have you all tried climax control condoms? Those may help him last a bit longer! You can also try different positions that are difficult for him to finish in, so you can have your orgasm too! My boyfriend always tries to hold back until I have my orgasm and then lets himself go too.. seems like guys have it a bit easier, haha!
well i've never try them i didnt even know there were climax control condoms jejeje thats good but how can i tell him to buy those condoms maybe it would be embarrasing for him...idk then ill try others positions to see how it work...i know for them thats very easy lol for us is a lil bit harder.....thanx for the advice
well i've been having sex for the last 3 months and i do enjoy it but my boyfriend tends to finish to fast i dont know if he comes too fast cuz i make him come fast or cuz he cant hold it but i really need help. i think i've never reach an "orgasm" cuz in the best part he finishes :S i would like to knoe a way to make him last longer!!!!!!!!!!!helppppppppppppppp
OK a friend of mine told me about this once.
Ideally he has to practice self control. the way guys can learn this is to masturbate themselves but instead of getting off as fast as they can to hold back as much as they can. Another way is you masturbate him but encourage him not to climax and hold back as much as he can.
I believe its all self control The climax control condoms and the stuff called Detain ointment both contain local anesthetic that numbs the penis cutting down on sensitivity.
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From your post I would guess you both are young. If that is the case he should have a fast recovery time. Wait a half hour to one hour & try again. He will last longer the second time.
I suggest that after the first time he ejaculates, to get him fully erect as fast as humanely possible and go at it again. This works for me and there is as much as a 15 minute difference afterwards. I sometimes don't even ejaculate since the penis is still not fully recovered and is still not producing the testosterone and semen needed for ejaculation.
When guys can hold off on their orgasms, they often end up more intense when they let go anyway! I think he would be FINE with this, haha. Does he know that you aren't having an orgasm or does he assume you have one? You might have to say something... tell him in a nice, suggestive way that you would love to have an orgasm during sex. Maybe he can hold off for you to have an orgasm, then he can let himself go too. I think many guys just don't think about this and assume she has an orgasm or that she can't during sex since some girls are like that.
If you do want to try the climax control condoms, you can always buy them and put them on him and you don't have to necessarily show him the packaging if you are worried he would be embarrassed.
My boyfriend has the exact same problem! We have a few theories as to why:
1> I'm a little too vocal, which turns him on, and he climaxes faster
2> We usually don't foreplay for very long and that cuts down on my stimulation
3> He enjoys positions that stimulate him a lot, but me not so much
To fix this he usually gives me stimulation before penetration to get me closer to climax (if not climax altogether). Also, because I can keep going after I'm done, but he can't, we usually start in positions I can get off from and once I'm finished, he finishes with positions he likes. Variety is good in a sexual relationship.
I tried being less vocal, but the sounds of sex aren't that appealing or stimulating.
If you haven't talked to him about it, you should. It is very possible he doesn't even realize that you don't climax (especially if he's young and inexperienced).
Lastly, I can't give any input on the climax control condoms because I've never used them, but my boyfriend says using condoms makes him last longer, so if you're not, you should.
well i've been having sex for the last 3 months and i do enjoy it but my boyfriend tends to finish to fast i dont know if he comes too fast cuz i make him come fast or cuz he cant hold it but i really need help. i think i've never reach an "orgasm" cuz in the best part he finishes :S i would like to knoe a way to make him last longer!!!!!!!!!!!helppppppppppppppp
Join the crowd my dear, we want and they trust me they want to last longer.
Have him masturbate and ejaculate by himself before having sex with you. When I was still a virgin, one of my friends told me this worked for making him last a lot longer before I found I didn't have this problem.
well i dont have this problem.. but ive read in places that it is self control as someone mentioned earlier. my bf has had alotta experience in his years (and no hes not old lol) but hes learned to control himself.
in time your bf will learn to do so as well
until then.. i suggest enjoying foreplay.. dont rush into sex ... forplay is fun, ur learning eachothers bodies and having connection.. so i guess thats bout the length of others... and then have sex.. because he wont have semen buildup already... so sex after that should b longer lasting.
You could get a penis ring. those r supposed to help.
but communication is key... the only way for you and him to enjoy sexual activities together is to be open with eachother.. what u like and dont like.. whats better and teaching eachother.. :]
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My boyfriend orgasms too fast!!! 
well i've been having sex for the last 3 months and i do enjoy it but my boyfriend tends to finish to fast i dont know if he comes too fast cuz i make him come fast or cuz he cant hold it but i really need help. i think i've never reach an "orgasm" cuz in the best part he finishes :S i would like to knoe a way to make him last longer!!!!!!!!!!!helppppppppppppppp
