I am a teen male, only I always hated being male! For the past few months I have been searching like crazy for help of any kind. I found a lot more people that want the same thing that I do than I thought I would, but all of them no matter what the age all want it for a different reason. All the people I found all seem to want to be girls to match how they look with how they fell like by having breast or a vagina, and I want that, but only so I can be accepted as a girl. I really want to think more like a girl, have all the emotions as a girl, and mostly be more able to have those long in-depth meaningful conversations that only girls seem to be able to have with one another. I Never really cared for guys, all they seem to be able to think about is sex, beer, and video games not that all guys are bad, but girls just seem to be able to think, and talk about so much more, and every time I see girls talking I cant help but fell like I'm going to cry, and some times I do. I only get really emotional like a girl or really feminine for about an hour or 2 before bed, and then when I wake up it all starts to slip away. Almost as if I got use to watching life through a 3D color omnimax theater and then all the sudden I had to use a 2 inch black and white TV. It's like going through hell every day. I've done little things like shaving my legs, turning my computer theme pink, trying not to do gross things like scratching my self, and ext. and it all helps I even have a few friends that are girls and I like talking with them/being with them but we vary seldom communicate on the level girls do, and I really want to more but I don't really want to tell any one that I know especially if I know them well. I'm also kinda wondering if there is any people like me(I kinda imagine there are, there is 6 billion people on this planet) I just wonder if any are known of or how common they are.
Any reply is much appreciated, this is the first time I've told any one in along time, and thanks for reading the whole thing.
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This is quite interesting. You know, you could just stick to having female friends, as you're already doing. That should help out a lot. At least you do have female friends to bounce your thoughts off to.
I'm a girl myself, but I guess I'm the opposite. I've always had male companions, and it was rare that I ever had a girl as a friend. Even now, I do not have any female friends where I feel close enough to share anything with. It's nutty.
You need to find a counselor or therapist who specialises in gender identity issues. Are you transsexual? Intend to have a gender reassignment? You would do well to explore all the options around. Yes, there are many people like you around. Find one of their organisations and educate yourself. Check the Internet.
You bring up a good point. Is it possible, after a male has gender reassingment surgery, to be able to have the mindset of a female automatically? Because I don't think having that surgery would change the person's thought processes and ability to process information and so on. I don't know a lot about the surgery or what kind of counseling people get before, during and after, but I don't think that changing your external appearance would necessarily change you on the inside, also. That's something that I would think probably can't be changed. Anyone can have the surgery done, but they would still be the same person, only with different "parts", I guess? So I don't think that's the answer.
But I agree that it's probably helpful for you to surround yourself with female friends, because that should help you with understanding more about how girls relate to each other and how female friendships happen. There are guys out there who are more sensitive than others and who have a better understanding of how women think, and I think it's mostly because they spend more time trying to understand women.
I think it would be really difficult for you to really get to the point where you can completely relate to everyone the way a woman does. I don't even think that is physically possible. But you can certainly learn a lot from your female friends, which will help you appreciate female interactions and thought patterns. And that can potentially benefit you in the future with your interactions with others.
First I just want to say thanks for so many reply's. Second a few posters seem to think that I want to be a transsexual more than I actually do. I really only would want that if I thought it would help, and in the long run I don't think I will take it that far. Also as Rach82 said
"When the hormones kick in, and they do quite quickly, normally a male will become impotent and lose their natural sex drive, sometimes completely. The "guys" cannot stand this, at least not for very long and will quickly stop it right there."
I have vary little I any desire for sex. I don't like the idea ant all! I made up in my mind a long time ago that the only time I would ever have sex is if A. I had a wife and was married to her for 5 to 10 years and would only have a wife after at least like 5 years after I'm old enough, and B. both me and her wanted to have children witch we could even adopt there is a lot of kids without a home, But as Rach82 also said
"this alone does not make one a woman, or accepted as one."
and I agree with that but I still just want to be with girls on they're level or at least as close to it as possible. Also as Kszan said
"it's probably helpful for you to surround yourself with female friends, because that should help you with understanding more about how girls relate to each other and how female friendships happen."
and I don't want to sound like a know it all because I know that I do not even know any where near every thing about girls or any thing else for that mater, and I am a vary curious person so I am willing to continue learning even if I never know every thing, but frankly I don't think any one ever knows every thing even about there own gender (I've asked girls things like why do they like guys and so fare I have never found an answer to it and they don't just walk away like girls do when they don't like you or want to talk to you they actually said flat out that they don't know.) I also already fell like I understand girls at least way better than I do guys. All I every did when I was little (and by little I mean 2 years ago and before) was watch people, male and female and I developed a pretty good understanding of people but I never really developed the conversation skills, and that's why I think that I want to be more like girls (not so I could have boobs or any thing) but because maybe I'm just a little jealous of how well girls communicate. Since I don't vary well, and the thing that I really don't like is when I'm in a group of people male or female I cant think of any of this and it's really hard to talk to any one. I just want to know more about what girls think about all of this so I might not be so scared.
Hi Inventor. I am a 27 year-old biological male who started transitioning on female hormones this last February. I feel so much better knowing that I am killing the testosterone in me and replacing it with estrogen, so to speak. Even though I am exclusively attracted to guys, which is why I identified as gay for so long, internally my gender identity from a young age was always female. I hated puberty, and I am now trying my best to rid myself of the male parts and replace things with female stuff, which makes me feel better because I am matching my external with my internal. I even started using my new female name to just friends and family, I would tell you it, but I do not think the posting rules allow me to. I wish I would have started hormones earlier because the sooner one does it, the better the hormones work. But whether or not you should go on hormones is a personal decision that you would explore with a gender therapist.