My bf is having erection problems? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

Victoria91 · 02-03-2008, 10:12 PM

Well Ive had 2 bf's Ive been sexually active with.
The 1st one got erections 24/7, and could keep one for quite a while. When ever we started kissing or just talked about sex hed get an erection.
NOW...
My new bf, he was a virgin, just wasnt really able to keep an erection, he also said it takes him a whole porno video for him to ejaculate. Is this normal?
I dont know what to think.

cleansweap · 02-06-2008, 09:51 AM

No, this isn't normal. It is clear that he has a problem. What? who knows, it could be stress, a lack of interest in you, another girl, he could even be gay/not sure of his sexual preferrence at this time. You said he was a virgin. Maybe, he needs a lot more foreplay. Is he taking meds? That can cause problems. Does he masturbate a lot? That could cause problems, so theirs nothing you can do, but back off from the sex. You can ask him the questions I've asked you so for, that's if he's open and willing to discuss his problems. As for having sex with him again, let him suggest having it. If he doesn't suggest having it, then it's clear that he doesn't want a sexual relationship at this time. If this really upsets him, and he wants to solve his problem, encourage him to see his family doctor.

rosequartz · 02-06-2008, 10:19 AM

no it's not normal.....do you really want to be with a guy who has to watch a porno....let alone a WHOLE porno to get off?

if it was me, it'be time to find another BF.......where is the first one these days with the 24/7 ?

crippledwarrior · 02-10-2008, 09:02 PM

If this is something new, then it could be depression/stress related problem. Don't put any pressure on him cause if you do then he will have a harder time. It could also be that he is looking for deeper meaning in your relationship and he is not seeing it. You said he is a virgin. How old is he? Was it his choice to not have sex before?

I think this problem is more in his mind even if at a subconscious level. If he was never able to get an erection easily, then there is probably something else going on. I don't know how you feel about him, but maybe if you try showing him (without telling him) your feelings, he will be able to perform better. Maybe he sees you as being selfish or something or maybe you are controlling the relationship and he doesn't like it, but he is afraid to stand up for himself on areas of conflict.