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Old 07-23-2008, 12:26 AM   #1
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Frequent Masturbation = Quicker orgasm in sex?

Hello,

I had a period of about 2 years where I went through some major depression and isolation. I rarely went outside or had any type of social life other then on the computer. Due to this I never had a girlfriend or much of any friends within that time-frame. I often found myself very lonely and masturbating very frequently to fulfill my sexual desires. I have had days were I would masturbate 6 times within a 24 hour time frame. I average about 2 to 3 a day.

I generally masturbated just for the orgasm. I would try to get it done as quick as possible to get that orgasmic fix.

About 5 months ago I broke out of my shell and found a wonderful girl whom I love and hold dear. We started becoming sexually active about a month after going out. At first we had many issues trying to even have a successful intercourse because I was so nervous and scared that I would not be able to please her enough. At last we worked together to resolve the issue but the sex was VERY short because I would orgasm so fast. As time progressed and we had sex more frequently it started lasting a little longer but still very short.

I am very open with my girlfriend and we work together to optimize our relationship and sex life with honesty and constructive criticism. She knows about my 2 year period and suggested that perhaps that could be a major cause for our situation. She proposed that maybe the fact that I masturbated so frequently for the sole purpose of reaching an orgasm that perhaps that's why I orgasm so fast when we have sex. I thought this was a very logical proposal and thought I would inquire upon everyone's input from here.

I noticed that when I got my mind of trying to not orgasm or pacing myself that I would last a little longer as well but still below marginal. She is very pleased with my performance lately and I have had times when I have been able to get multiple orgasms out of her but those are rare occurrences and aren't necessarily contributed to the length of the session.

Thank you and I'd appreciate any and all constructive feedback.

 
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Old 07-23-2008, 04:51 AM   #2
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Re: Frequent Masturbation = Quicker orgasm in sex?

You could try masturbating slowly. Before ejaculation is inevitable, back off.
Do this a few times. You get to know your body better with each session.
Then, during sex, you can tell when to back off, by changing positions, or speed, or whatever it takes.
Learning can be fun. Enjoy.

 
Old 07-28-2008, 12:16 AM   #3
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Re: Frequent Masturbation = Quicker orgasm in sex?

i think its great that you and your girlfriend works together to discuss it, you work together and it makes it much easier and quicker to deal with. you are doing really well!
i agree completely with; tommy124, that with practice you will know when you need to adjust you position, it does work!

 
Old 07-28-2008, 08:39 PM   #4
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Re: Frequent Masturbation = Quicker orgasm in sex?

Thank you for your advice and feedback. I have tried incorporating multiple position changes as I progress towards an orgasm. It really does help quite a bit. We have been lasting much longer and I have gotten her to have up to six orgasms before I even reach mine!

I generally noticed being on top makes me orgasm faster so I generally start off the way to make sure I am firm enough and after I am satisfied with the firmness I switch it around and let her be on top as this has less feeling for me yet more for her at times. We alternate to other positions as well and have learned the sensitivity and benefits of each. It's really impressive how changing between positions determined by the mood and progression can really enhance one's sex life.

Thank you so much!

 
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Re: Frequent Masturbation = Quicker orgasm in sex?

I would offer one caution. It's not a game of how much you can get her to respond.
It's an expression of feelings.
You sound like a really nice, genuine guy. She's lucky, and so are you.

 
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