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Old 04-24-2011, 10:28 AM   #1
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My Girl Friends First Time

so my girl friend feels that our first time was not special, and that it was more for me than it was for her, she feels that i didnt take into account her feelings and that it was rushed. and she resents me for that. what can i do or say to her to make this better and assure her that this was not the case?

 
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Re: My Girl Friends First Time

How can you "assure her" that her feelings are invalid?
You can't. They aren't.

You can tell her that you're sorry her first time did not feel special enough to her.
You can tell her that you're sorry that she felt rushed and didn't enjoy it much, and that- since you did enjoy it- she's right: it was way better for you than it was for her.

Tell her you wish this weren't the case, but that it usually is (most girls do not actually "enjoy" sex their first time).

Tell her that there's no changing the past, and that all you can do is move forward together.
Invite her suggestions as to how you can make future sexual encounters more enjoyable than the first one was.

Best of luck.

 
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Re: My Girl Friends First Time

Just listen to her feelings and say that you two can put off making love until SHES ready and tell her to let you know when shes ready then you make it really romantic. a girl likes to feel special and girls like romance too. when you tell her all this hold her. you also can't feel guilty for rest of your life so shes either going to have to forgive you or end the relationship but in fairness to you if she wasnt truly ready she should have said so and said no. so she plays a part in this.

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