About a month and a half ago, after I had been kissing my girlfriend for 10 minutes, we had gotten in a position that caused me to ejaculate in my pants. I was very embarrassed, and quickly decided head home in order to avoid having this problem seen. I am an 18 year old and I thought this was just a one time problem that happened for some reason. The problem is that ever since then, I ejaculate in my pants if we kiss for more than a minute or too. It has actually started to get worse and happen sooner as time progresses.
I have tried masturbating right before seeing her, but that still did not keep it from happening. I have no idea how to stop this from happening. It is definitely hurting our relationship and is stressful for me because of how I have to try to cover it up or prevent from even kissing her to keep my self from ejaculating in my pants. I know this is a form of premature ejaculation, but this seems a little bit extreme and I do not know where to begin to try to prevent it from happening. Has anyone dealt with this before or does anyone have any suggesting to prevent this from happening?
What you have to consider is your only 18 years old. If you are not having sex yet and there is nothing wrong in that you are probably just so desiring it that you can not hold it back and blow everywhere. Make sure you don't go free balling or it could really be embarrassing. Stop worrying about it. Try a more gentler way, for example, just kiss quickly then after a while a little bit longer but if you feel you are getting an erection then stop. Does she know this is happening to you. Just be carefull about telling her because while she is understanding at the time if you split up she might tell all your friends and hers or worse face book it. Good luck
This is something that you will most likely grow out of as time goes on. In the meantime, you can try a desensitizing cream to see if that reduces the feelings. I have heard of guys wearing a condom when they know they are going to be heading into a situation like this. That is easier said than done and it may or may not make things worse but it is something that you could try. Another important thing is to try to think of something other than your problem. When guys think about ejaculating, they get more excited and ejaculate faster. You need to be thinking of something that turns you off when you head into this situation.