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Old 06-06-2011, 07:04 PM   #1
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Angry Nervous about having sex again. Please help!!!

HI! well i have been with my girlfriend for six months now and its about time we have sex. We both want to. we have done oral and things like that because i am not really experienced. Everytime we are alone and just messing (foreplay) around my erections are perfectly normal but then when i tell her to take off her clothes and pass me a condom i go soft. About a year ago i lost my virginity to this girl (without her knowing that i was a virgin) and being that i was inexperienced, i didnt last very long...about 1 or 2 minutes. Everytime i am about to have intercourse with my girlfriend i start to think about my first time and how bad it was and it prevents me from getting hard. Also my heart starts beating very fast and my thoughts start to ramble. My girl is very understanding and she knows that i am inexperienced (and so is she)... i want to have good sex with her without thinkn about my first time...and how should i relax before sex? Please help!! Can i get good quality answers that will acutally help me and my ittle problem?? Please and Thankyou guys so much!

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Old 06-11-2011, 02:02 PM   #2
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Re: Anxiety about having sex the second time

Sorry to hear you are having this problem. Your body does not want to have sex when it is scared. It is the way we were made. Regarding your first time, it is perfectly normal that you finished quickly. Over time, you will develop stamina but you should not expect to go from inexperienced to experienced in just one try. The more open and honest you can be with your girlfriend, the better everything will be. If you explain to her what is happening, she should be understanding and you will most likely become much more relaxed. When you are with her, you have to do your best to concentrate on the present and not the past. One way you may want to do that is to have your girlfriend put the condom on you. That may keep your attention and erection at the same time.

Finally, your brain may not feel you are ready for sex. If that is the case, it is not good to force yourself to do something you really do not want to do.

I hope that helps.

 
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Old 06-11-2011, 06:34 PM   #3
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Re: Anxiety about having sex the second time

Thanks a lot man. I will get over this fear.

 
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