I find it a bit embarrassing to talk about this, so I thought I'd talk on here about it. I've had a bit of a weird upbringing, in that I've never really masturbated or done any of that kind of stuff until now. I don't know why but I just never really had any sexual feelings for girls until around about 16, guess I must have been a slow starter or something? And weirdly enough, I just cannot get into Porn at all, because I think it's disgusting.
So I decided to start now, and I noticed that I can only really get an erection through masturbation. For example, I looked at a picture of a hot naked girl on google to turn me on and masturbated to it, which got me an erection and felt good.
But, I can't get one through just looking at a picture of a naked girl or anything. I mean, I look at the picture, and mentally I'm finding her attractive and I'm turned on by it but I get no response at all from my penis. I tried kinda forcing it to get big, but nothing happens at all. It's kinda stressing me out a bit, so I hope you can provide an answer.
First off, you're not weird man. Not at all, some of us are late bloomers-its part of life. As to your problem. Erections can't be forced. Although you think a girl is pretty or "hot" you need to mentally relax yourself. Just let it happen and don't try and rush it. Erections are very natural thus you can't force your penis with your hand to get hard you have to ease into. Relax my friend...I hope this helps
Thanks for the reply. I have tried relaxing, but still nothing is happening. Like earlier today, I just watched a bit of lesbian porn which I found to be a lot hotter than the porn I had been watching. And I was getting the usual signs, like a slight tingling in my privates and faster heartbeat and I was enjoying watching it. But still nothing. I've considered maybe I'm impotent, but I get morning wood so I doubt it's that. Ugh, it's really frustrating. Do you think maybe it's because I'm a late bloomer that it's not growing? Will I grow into it or something? Really the only time I've had erections up till now is through an adrenaline activity and in the morning. It's starting to make me question if I'm asexual.
Don't question your sexuality because of this man. If you are getting morning erections your body works. Personally, this tells me something-you think about it to much. It is all in your head. The times you don't think about it so hard like the morning you get an erection. When I dealt with my sexual issues like Premature Ejaculation when engaging in intercourse and ED at times too it was because I was thinking too much, and worried too much. I had to relax my body and learn to shut off my mind, which can be tough...
Also watch out for the porn man. It can damage your psyche. Porn usually depicts violence in sex. Personally, I feel like porn ruined my sex life for a long time. Also, because you keep adapting your body to need more and more and hotter and hotter porn when you masturbate it will become even harder to achieve an erection. Basically, porn depicts overstimulating sex-when you have intercourse with a women it most likely wont be porn like. If the intercourse is not up to porn standards in your head you will not have a good erection or sexual experience. Try to ween of the porn. I would say wait for the right women in your life dude.
I'm not sure why you're trying to force it with the porn. If you think it's disgusting, trying to masturbate to it probably isn't such a good idea. At the very worst, you could be training yourself to become aroused by things that disgust you.
Have you tried just using your imagination, imagining things you'd do with an enthusiastic partner? Try imagining things you'd enjoy, not what random things you can find on the internet.