i don't want it to hurt! - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

xaphania · 10-28-2002, 02:03 PM

i need some advice on how to make my first time be as painless as possible. i know there's another post on this, so i've read some tips such as using enough lube and being on top, but what are things i can do *before* my first time. i mean, does it help to finger myself more in order to stretch it?

Hezza · 10-30-2002, 11:46 AM

no, just relax!
i think that's the key!
you'll be nervous cause you've heard horror stories about it hurting and bleeding and all of that, but really, it's not half as bad as it sounds!
lube is a good idea, it shouldn't hurt if you use it. stretching it isnt a good idea, and remember, if you use tampons, there's a chance your hymen is already torn so you won't bleed. but don't PLAN your first time, just let it happen and go with the flow.

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Anette0513 · 10-30-2002, 07:07 PM

All I am saying is I was on yop my first time, and i think it hurt like a b****. I don't think on bottem would hurt as much. But like others have said... relax...go with the flow and let what happens happen. It may hurt it may not... the more you do it the better it feels

! hehe Have fun and stay safe!

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Elret · 10-31-2002, 12:28 PM

My first time actually didn't hurt at all.

Dramaqueen · 10-31-2002, 02:07 PM

Yeah, the pain varies from person to person but its not like the horror stories you've heard! Don't plan for it, but when it does happen the best thing you can do is be with a special person who you love and trust. If your comfortable and relaxed it will be a whole lot easier!