Lights out - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

Cee · 09-01-2001, 10:16 PM

I'm a virgin but when I have sex I plan to have the lights all out. Is that weird? I just think it would be so awkward to have sex with any light at all. Maybe it's because I'm self-concious of my body. Anyone else feel this way?

sikila · 09-01-2001, 10:56 PM

Umm...pitch black? Kind of hard.

Perhaps candle light? Or dim lights? Don't worry about being self-concious, nothing is hotter than a very confident lady.

Disposition · 09-02-2001, 11:50 AM

Ya I agree, it's normal to be a virgin and want the romantic touch sensation, nothing else. But you will find that it would be a bit difficult in pitch-black to have sex. May I agree and suggest simple candle light, or dimlights? Don't be self-concious, it won't be as fun if you are! Just let loose

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Jude29 · 09-02-2001, 12:27 PM

Speaking as someone who has had sex quite a bit (I'm married not bragging), you really do need some kind of light the first time. Candle light is fine but even after all the years my wife and I have been together we still miscommunicate in bed and someone catches an elbow when we try to do it in complete darkness.

You should probably concentrate on your self image before you worry about how your first time is going to go. You need to understand that if the guy you are with loves you he loves you for who you are not what you look like.

JwhyS · 09-02-2001, 05:51 PM

As a guy, I sometimes feel that way, but it is primarily because I am uncut and I'm not a big seven incher, in fact i'm not even 6 inches so that's kind of embarrasing for me. Well, not so much embarassing, just something I'm kinda self-conscious about. However, I am only this way when I think about it. When I'm actually engaged in foreplay and such, my self conscious thought's dont' even cross my mind.