ok I'm 17 and I'm with my girl for like 4 months now and she just told me she wanted to have sex for the first time with me. I was totally mentally unready for this and I think I just got nervous and she couldn't get me 100% solid. So it didn't happen because it was phsycally impossible and now I feel like total garbage and really embarassed. I'm wondering y this happened? could it be the nervousness? (I've had perfect Oral sex with her enough times before, like everything worked at the time and finished perfectly)
Hey bud, calm down, happens to the best of us! Probably related to nerves and wanting things to be perfect that first time with her...and it rarely is on the first time for any of us. Keep trying and give yourself a break here...it truly is something that all of us face. If she really cares for you and wants this to happen, she'll be patient and help you along. Might try extra foreplay or even some masturbation with her just before trying to "enter" next time. But the main thing is to stop feeling embarassed or guilty about it..that'll only make it worse!
Take a deeep breath, and you got to learn to relax. You just got to melt down into the bed, and learn to chill. Let your mind take over, your fighting it by being so nervous. It happened to me the first time, but I calmed down and it was pretty good. Just RELAX, and don't worry!
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No wonder you couldnt get hard-sounds like it was a big shock to you! If your not mentally ready-wait. Theres no huge hurry. Talk about sex, contraceptive etc, you will be slightly more relaxed when the time comes if you know what birth control and stuff your using. Take your time with foreplay, and relax. If you love her and your comfortable with her all will be well.
It sounds to me like you just decided that because she wanted sex that you would do it. Did you ever stop to think about whether YOU want it yet? I mean, of course you want it... but are you really ready? If it was such a surprise, maybe it was a good thing that this happened. You need to make the decision that you are ready when you're not in the heat of the moment. That way, you won't wake up the next morning wondering if you went a little too fast. Just spend some time thinking about whether or not this is something that you're truly ready to experience and share with your girlfriend. If you're secure in your decision, it will make all of the physical stuff much easier, and it will make the whole thing much more meaningful.
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