cindyandbob

You can be responsible for you own actions and still be wrong. I am 42. I have made ALOT of mistakes. Sleeping around was one of them. It was when I was 21 and I regret it like it was yesterday. We stayed together for a long time, eventually divorced (nothing to do with prior incident) and remain friends. Nevertheless, it was wrong. I would never do that again. I did it because I was young and inexperienced in life, unhappy not knowing who I was.
Just because a person is 21 and LEGAL does not make them an adult. An adult has experience, maturity and accountability. A person who is 21 is, in most cases, starting a new life. They have lost that "high school" mentality where everyone is told when, where and how to do something. They are starting to initiate things and meet new people. My daughter is 21, married, gainfully employed and eternally optomistic. Happy-go-lucky.
But young folks lack the experience, the "know" of life situations. For instance, just because you make 35K a year does not mean you would make a great parent at 21. It takes much, much more than money, diapers, car seats, etc. to raise a child. It can be done financially by anyone willing to work hard enough whether they be 15 or 21. But the maturity and the patience is a long time coming when you are young. Someone 15-25 needs to have fun, learn who they are, and be comfortable with who they are. In that respect, there is not much difference between being 15 or 21 and raising a child. 21 is not the know-all end-all of the world. 21 may as well be 17 without parental consent.

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Cindy T.

"We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety, a hundred
years at the very most. During that period we must try to do
something good, something useful with our lives. Try to be at peace
with yourself and help others share that peace. If you contribute to
other people's happiness, you will find the true goal, the true
meaning of life."

~ The Dalai Lama