cant really get an erection with my girlfriend - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

ILJ · 02-13-2003, 07:09 PM

sometimes i can get an erection they just come on on there own i dont
always get an erection when i wake up infact i havnt for a while and
when i did sometimes they wernt very hard i can watch porn and it will go hard but
when im with me girlfriend and we start making out i get an erection
then some sticky stuff comes out of my penis and it wont go hard again
and if it does not very hard and if i do get an erection i cant seem
to keep it very long and also i sometimes get pains in my balls mostly my right one i dont know whats up thanks

Apollo · 02-15-2003, 12:50 AM

Ok, ILJ, might be a good idea to stop watching porn, it seems a little disrespectful to your girlfriend, or I beleive it is. Also, that "sticky stuff" is called semen, and after a man ejaculates, his erection decreases. If you know it is not semen, then it may be "pre-***" which is just lubticant for the inside of your penis. The pain in your testicles are a thing called "blue-balls." I'm not really sure EXACTly why it happens, but it seems that when you reach a high enough sexual stimulation without sexual climax, and then stop, your testicles begin to hurt quite a bit after. The pain will either go away in time, or if you release yourself sexually.

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Blastoff9600 · 02-15-2003, 10:06 AM

First not all women/girls find porn disrespectful. matter of fact there are quite a few who enjoy watchig it.
Second of all the pain you are discribing doesnt really sound like it would be blue balls. The pain would nomrally be in both testicles not just one. So talking to a doctor about the pain would be a great idea.

Apollo · 02-15-2003, 11:37 AM

Blastoff, yes you can have blue balls in only one testicle, and about porn, I meant it as a generalized statement, with a bit of personal touch. I think it is disrespectful, if the man watchs porn, when he's in a relationship. It seems like a form of cheating, you are stimulated by another female body. I could understand if both partners take in part of it, together, gathering tips, or just for the mad stimulation, before they go fool around. It just seems disrespectful, to the girl, maybe talk to your partner ILJ, see if she minds or not.

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