what should i do?¿? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

xXxShawtyxXx · 05-17-2003, 11:03 PM

Ok well my b/f and I have been having sex lately and it's great. After that he always like "you just don't know how much i love you" and "i love you so much"... just stuff like that. Before we started having sex he said that stuff all the time but now he only says it after sex. So do you think he is just using me for sex? Should I tell him about how I feel? If so how should I tell him?
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HGF109 · 05-18-2003, 03:31 AM

I definitely think u shoudl tell him how u feel . . . if ur close enuff to someone to be giving ur body to them . . u should be able to open up with them in this sense .. .

but why he is doing it is hard to say, everyones different

Dramaqueen · 05-19-2003, 01:38 AM

Maybe he doesn't even realise it. Tell him how you feel, say you love him randomly when you haven't had sex, and see what he says.

SimplePleasures* · 05-19-2003, 03:27 PM

Personally I don't think him saying "I love you" only after sex is necessarily a bad thing - in my mind, it is probably because you two just did something very intimate, and he feels that it is perfect timing to say it then. Like one poster mentioned, he probably doesn't even realize it. If he said "I love you" and stuff like that before you guys even ever had sex, then I'm sure his feelings are true. If he was only using you for sex, I don't think he would continue a b/f g/f relationship with you when there are many girls out there these days who would welcome casual sex any time an offer rises (meaning I think your boyfriend could find sex anywhere if that is all he wanted from a girl). However, no matter what, if it bothers you, you have every right to state your feelings to him. Just don't be harsh or anything because most likely he has no idea he only says it then - and he will probably feel bad knowing that it bothers you. Someone suggested saying I love you randomly and see what he says. That's a good idea. I'm sure you'll find that he was clueless as to only saying it then, and you'll find him saying it much more

Take care and let us know how it goes!

budman · 05-22-2003, 06:26 AM

How many times do couples tell each other "I love you" early in a relationship? ALL of the time! You say it so much that people around you get ill, but as a relationship matures, you don't say it as often. You both know how the other feels, you are secure in your love. You tend to SHOW you love more, instead of just saying "I love you" a hundred times a day. And in a mature relationship, when you do tell your partner you love them, in has more power and meaning because of your history with that person. And history breeds understanding.