HELP! I'M REALLY TIGHT!!!! - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

PuNkRoCkChIcK · 05-25-2003, 04:42 PM

Ok.. I'm 16 yrs old and I want to have sex with my boyfriend, but I'm afraid it's going to hurt too much. And also, I'm VERY tight. Even tampons hurt!!! I know that my hymen is broken from other stuff. But I'm just really afraid it's going to hurt. And for that matter, how is it going to even get in me?? Because my boyfriend is HUGE! Very big!!! And I'm a pretty small girl (a little over a 100 lbs.. I dont know if that has anything to do with it). I've been fingered before and that doesn't feel too good either. I've tried to finger myself but it just hurts alot. Maybe I get too afraid of something before I actually get used to it. Like with tampons.. I tried it a couple times but it just hurt so I sticked with pads. I have my ways of getting pleasure when im by myself, but it's nothing like actually getting something up there. So yeah... can anyone help me out here?

Snazzy101 · 05-25-2003, 04:52 PM

If a tampon hurts you, then a penis is going to really hurt, since it's so much bigger

I would hold off on the sex until you can at least insert a couple of fingers comfortably. Start off slowly, use lube, and gently stretch yourself. Or have your boyfriend do it. I'd vote for you, since you can control any discomfort.

dandi_andi · 05-26-2003, 04:14 PM

Well i'm 17 and i want to have sex with my bf for the first time...at first before me and him started to stretch out my vagina, i thought i was too tight to fit anything in there. Just stretch yourself out and have him help cuz that'll be a little easier on you. I don't think you should worry soooo much cuz when you got aroused, your vagina will be easier to stretch and use lots of lube your first time and make sure you're really ready!! I hope I helped you!! :-) Good luck hun!!

Calixte_Silas · 05-27-2003, 08:19 AM

Your vagina isn't going to get any 'looser' if you 'stretch' it. The deal is you're too nervous. If you're ready for sex, then it will be easier to relax. When you are ready, go slow, lots of foreplay (oral sex, etc.) and have him go very slow. Maybe you should be on top the first time, so you can control how fast he goes inside.
Bottom line: if you're not realxed and comfortable, and it hurts: you're not ready.
It doesn't have to hurt the first time. It might be a little uncomfortable and a little pain at first, but if it hurts a lot - something's wrong.
Wait until you're comfortable, it will make the experience much much better.

PudgesGirl · 05-29-2003, 07:09 PM

I kinda had the same problem/fear when my boyfriend and I started to have sex. My OBGYN had told me for years that I may never be able to have intercourse because I was soooo tight. I was able to use tampons, but only the really, really thin ones (Slim Fits... Playtex brand I think). So when I told her that I wanted to get serious with my boyfriend, she recommended lube, heavy foreplay and be stay relaxed. We started out with 1 finger and then slowly worked our way up to 3! It was kinda uncomfortable at first, but you'll get used to it. Plus it's good way of getting comfortable with your partner in that sense.
Sex the first time wasn't nearly as painful as my doctor told me it would be! It just took time, patients and lots of love. Hope that helps!