What to do with my, odd urges? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

Kirby04 · 06-01-2002, 01:55 PM

Hey again guys, its been a while since I posted anything about my feelings. To recap I'm a Male who wants to be a Female, and being that way I have a lot of urges and I was wondering what I could do with them. My basic urges are ones where I want to become my target sex, and becoming closer to that sex makes me feel better. I was wondering since I just turned 16 and soon to have my license where I could go or what I could do to express my urges instead of suppressing them. And by the way my parents are against my type of male to female feelings, and doing something around them could get me kicked out so what I do needs to be in private more or less, Thanks! (oh btw i'm also going to be getting a job very soon so i'll have some minor money to spend on things to fufill my urges!)

~kirb

AshleeD · 06-01-2002, 09:05 PM

I'm not sure I really understand the question. What urges are you trying to fill? Sorry, maybe you did explain that and I didn't catch it in your question...also, why do you want to be a female http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dizzy.gif ? Are you looking to have a full sex change or do you just sometimes wish you were one? Sorry I couldn't be of more help but I'd like to be so write back and be more specific unless you already were and sorry if that's the case! Sorry, I got confused http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/confused.gif!

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AshLee

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Kirby04 · 06-01-2002, 09:58 PM

Oh, yeah heh, guess I should explain the urges more. Basically my urges are to be a girl, sexual urges, not just all feelings and mental. Dressing up, as I used to do before my parents found out and got mad at me, used to bring so much peace to me. Now I urge for that peace again or to become that 'girl' again that I was. I wish to find a cure to my urge like i did before when i dressed up, but now that i can drive i have options again and would like to know if anyone has any ideas, especially females because they know how to pleasure themselves, and I was wondering if I could get some tips or things to do. The more I let my urges go the more depressed and sad I get, sadly, so the more outlets i have the better so please tell me everything you can, I'd appreciate it! Thx everyone! (Oh and I also play Female chars on the internet and they sorta help me with the urges, plz give ANY ideas that you may have for me, i'm very open, just remember anything to do at home or, if my parents will find out, tho i can do anything when they aren't home that doesn't leave stuff behind... and i'm guessing some of you think it's bad that i'm hiding this and i'd also like you to post back, and maybe i should change my private life, if you know what i mean.... i hope i'm not confusing anybody!)
Kirby!

AshleeD · 06-02-2002, 06:52 PM

Oh my gosh, haha! I'm still totally confused http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/confused.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dizzy.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/confused.gif! My guess is, what I caught from your response, is that you're trying to find ways to please yourself sexually, right? And that's as if you were a girl, right? But you do not have female organs if you know what I mean, so that's going to be a little hard. Can't you have sex change or something? I seriously have no idea if they can even do those, but I've heard of them.

When you say you want to be a female, do you want to be with men (you being a "female") too? Or do you want to be with women (while you're a "woman")? Sorry I again couldn't be of much help, maybe it's just my ditziness kicking in, but I'm completely confused again LOL...sorry! Btw, I also think that you should tell your parents of your urges to be a female. Maybe they could help you, you never know what parents will do to make their pride 'n joys happy! Write back...again sorry I still don't understand fully.

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AshLee

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mlgable · 06-02-2002, 10:48 PM

You need to sit down and explain your feelings more. Just becuase dressing as a female brings you peace does not totally mean you are a male who wants to be a female. Do you have the deep desire to have a sex change operation and totally be a woman or would you just be satisfied to dress up in womens clothes and maybe go out like that ect. You totally want to be a woman would mean you desire a sex change operation and would want to date men etc. Many people just enjoy the feeling of dressing as a women and acting as women but don't totally feel the need to be a woman all the way. These are often referred to as cross dressers and are very common. I see nothing wrong with dressing up in womens clothes if that is your thing but yes it is wrong to dress up in someone elses clothes without their permission which is obviously what you were doing before you got caught. Once you have a job go ahead and buy a few things but consider a very safe place for your items so as not to upset your parents by having them find your stuff. Be aware that womens clothes are not cheap and even simple items such as underwear can cost a woman an arm and a leg. Be sure to do some research on womens clothes sizes so you don't wind up with things you can't use. If you truely desire to be a full fledged woman with breasts and everything else I would certainly recommend that you consider counseling so that you can fully discuss and come to terms with your feelings so that you will be fully prepared when it comes time to tell your parents about all of this. Good Luck.