go further - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

jamie157 · 07-17-2003, 10:09 AM

Okay here's the situation:

If you're getting a handjob, how do you know wether to go further with this girl-- say, intercourse or oral, and make the move for it? Because if you get the handjob long enough you will no doubt bust, and that's that.

Thanks in advance!

Lance2 · 07-17-2003, 10:38 AM

What would be wrong with "busting?" If that happens then its cool and move on with helping her. If it leads to sex, you'll need a while to be ready again anyway. And I bet that it'll last longer since you've just ejaculated...that equals more fun anyway. Its always best to follow her lead anyway...if shes willing to have it go further...she'll let you know by her non-verbal cues.

happy go lucky · 07-17-2003, 10:50 AM

I AGREE WITHLANCE! SEX INVOLVES A NUMBER OF SPOKE AND UNSPOKE LANGUAGES AT THE SAME TIME, THE MORE EXPEREICNED YOU GET, ESPECIALLY WITH THE SAME PARTNER THE LESS THE SPOKEN LANGUAGE IS NEEDED AND THE MORE THE UNSPOKEN ONE IS USED.,

HOWEVER, THERE IS NEVER A CRIME TO ASK AND SPEAK FREELY AS TO WHAT YOU BOTH, LIKE, ENJOY AND OR WANT TO TRY.

WHAT EVER YOU DO, ALWAYS SUE COMDOMS, EVEN 4 HAND JOBS, A CUT ON HER HAD CAN LEAD TO ALL KINDS OF HEALTH PROBLEMS.

I AM SECUALLY ACTIVE AND STARTED REAL EARLY, BUT I NEVER HAD SEX FOR SEX SAKE, I HAD IT BECUSE I LOVED WHO I WAS WITH, RESPECT HER AND YOURSELF ALWAYS USE PROTECTION AND USE IT PROPERLY.

dancediva · 07-18-2003, 02:55 PM

Well while she is giving you a handjob you could say somthing like or you okay with or do you want to do more. You could also say to her do you want to go down there and say hi. This may sound very stupid but numerous guys have told me this. If she does it to you than most likely she will let you do more to her as well. Also if you talk about where the relationship is going while you are not messing around this could be beneficial.
Hope this helps!

bngreen · 07-19-2003, 04:55 PM

You don't want to rush her and you don't want to trick her. Offer or return her favor, if you know what I mean. Make her feel good, too. Sex should be a last resort...you must BOTH be ready.