JAYB

Jamie,
I’ve read some of your posts and you’re obsessing too much over this. Every situation is different and I know you want to do everything right, but sometimes you can think of everything humanly possible and
something else can turn up.

You’ve been given a lot of opinions on these boards but ultimately it’s up to you.
I would say educate yourself with some good books, so at least you’re familiar with the mechanics of how things work. I’m not talking about porno, but books like “The Joy of Sex” and legitimate sex sites, not porno sites.

Sure you’ll be nervous but sometimes spontaneity can be fun. I’ve heard rock singers say they’re so nervous before a live performance that they think they’re going to fail, but that adrenaline rush they have pumps them up and they do the best performance of their life.

If you're both inexperienced then you have nothing to worry about. You can learn together. If you’re both virgins, even better, you won’t have to worry about disease, but obviously you’ll want to know about pregnancy prevention.

If she’s more experienced let her know that. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

Do something relaxing before like a nice dinner, movie, or take a walk.

Hopefully this is a woman you love and respect and have known a while before making love to her. That will make it even easier because you’ll have been comfortable around each other and trust each other.

She’ll let you know if she’s not comfortable with something you’re doing. Tell her how much you love her, that she looks beautiful, or you love the fragrance she’s wearing. Let her know she’s special.
What I’m trying to say is it may not be perfect every time.
Nothing is!