Help, somehow cant get up? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

spor · 08-20-2003, 02:50 PM

Help me please,
for some reason when Im with my g/f and we try to have sex i just cant seem to get hard enough to have intercourse? I dont know why this is, i think it might be a mind thing b/c maybe im worried/anxious etc? I dont know what the problem is. When we both have clothes on and are fooling around i get really aroused. Anyone have any ideas? I try to relax and dont think about it but no go? This is really frustrating... Ive told her this and she isnt mad says just maybe try again but im not sure how long she'll have that attitude.

DanaJ · 08-20-2003, 03:44 PM

It sounds purely psychological.
You said you can get erections at other times- while you're alone, masturbating, etc? If you can obtain and maintain an erection during those times, then it's not a physical problem. Which is good.
Your anxiety and stress aren't helping matters, but making them worse. SOunds like performance anxiety.

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spor · 08-20-2003, 03:46 PM

how should i combat this? Just "relax"?

pandakat · 08-20-2003, 10:14 PM

hey I had the same problem as you did. When me and my girlfriend would do things orally, everthing went fine, but when we were about to have intercourse, i wouldn't get hard enough. We tried starting out orally until I got an erection and then having intercourse. That seemed to work for me. I don't have much of a problem with it anymore. Hope I could help.

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-pandakat

spor · 08-21-2003, 01:44 AM

yeah that might work, for some reason shes not a real bj fan though, bad past experiences i think or something, any other ideas, i think the just relaxing and trying not to worry is the best maybe