Ready For Sex, Not to be a Father - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

CaliforniaBOy5 · 08-25-2003, 12:08 AM

A girl and I want to have sex, but were only teens and we do not want a baby. Well, were thinking about condoms, and i was thinking, in porn movies they always finish outside as in with oral or ejaculation on the chest ect. Can we do that too to avoid having the risk of getting a child? What other things can we do to prevent that? I heard about this one pill you take after sex, whats the name of it? does it work? Thanks

Greenoctopus18 · 08-25-2003, 04:54 AM

Using a condom is a good idea to help prevent both STDs and pregnancies, but it is not 100%...as you would know.
I think the pill you are talking about is the Morning After pill, also known as Emergency Contraception. It is supposed to be taken in emergencies only, such as when a condom breaks, etc.. It is only effective up to 72 hours after having unprotected sex. It cannot effectively be used as a form of birth control.
I would suggest your friend going on daily oral contraceptives (i.e. 'the pill'). These are very effective in preventing pregnancies when taken correctly (over 99% effective).
I'm not familiar with porn, but do they use condoms? If not, I don't suggest you follow their example. What you are talking about, I think, is the 'pull out' method. You can still cause a pregnancy even if you are not to ejaculate inside... there may be some pre-ejaculate, which can contain sperm.

If you use condoms you are fairly safe.. if you use them correctly. But I strongly suggest she goes on the pill, just incase.

DanaJ · 08-25-2003, 06:09 AM

You need to use protection. No question about that.
What they do in porn, is for entertainment, it's not "real" and should never be copied by young people, especially inexperienced ones.
If you're not ready to have kids, then you should seriously reconsider sex. There is always the chance of facing that consequence.
Either way, you need to use protection.

The morning after pill is NOT a form of contraception. It is to be used in emergencies only.

Amontillado · 08-25-2003, 09:14 AM

If you're planning to have sex a lot once you start, your lady might do best getting a prescription for the pill, or a diaphram. If you're just doing it occasionally you can get by with condoms, but personally I've never enjoyed them. Still, what you gotta do, you gotta do.

And, depending on your past history (yours and hers) you might want to use condoms to prevent nasty diseases getting passed around. Don't have sex with anyone you wouldn't trust your life to!

It is good public relations to tell her that you really appreciate her taking smart precautions and you realize it's extra trouble for her and it's not fair that it's always the woman who has to do it etc etc and can you make it up with a nice backrub?

CaliforniaBOy5 · 08-25-2003, 10:53 AM

Well, this would be both of our 1st time, im just worried about not getting a baby. . .