Oral sex - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

kth911 · 08-27-2003, 04:25 PM

My girlfriend loves receiving oral sex but she does not like to give it. And if it was up to her she would only receive it. I've never ejacultaed in her mouth, but I have releases some pre-*** (I find oral sex very pleasurable but I cant climax from a couple minutes of it). She does not like the taste at all. Every time I perform oral sex on her she lies down and relax not thinking about pleasing me. And when she does finally do it she acts like it's a chore, and because of this I tell her to stop. I don't know what it is exactly, I asked her, and she said she just doesn't like it. I've performed it on her 4 times and she's performed it on my 3. To be honest I do not like the taste,consistency, and smell of her vagina but I did it anyway because I love her and I know she loves it.
We havn't done it anymore since then. But I'm sure she would want me to do it for her. But I'm not going to do it for her if she won't do for me and not have a reason why. Am I wrong???....It's no fun anyway when she does it, she expects me to ejaculate in 2 minutes, and while doing it she cant wait to go spit it out and wash her mouth with listerine. It's not like my penis is not clean or anything...
I'm just frustrated by the lack of sexual plessure and fun in our relationship. We've been together for 10 months now and we are about to start college, I am hoping that things will get better in this department. This is the only area of or relationship that we have problems in. And no we have not had sex yet.

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Apollo · 08-27-2003, 04:33 PM

Some things you jsut have to deal with in your relationship. If she doesn't like it, you can't force her. Have you found something different to compromise? Like another sexual plesurable situation. You could try changing your diet, and maybe help stuff taste better. IE. fruits and vegtables, no drinking, or smoking. Hope that helps. Good luck .

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EddieBrock · 08-27-2003, 05:46 PM

I would talk to her about it. Just lay it out about how she doesn't mind receiving but at the same time doesn't want to give any...in a nice way of course.

My girlfriend didn't like to give oral before. I would be lucky if I got a minute of it. Of course, I was the first guy she had ever did it on and we were 16 then. Well...five years later and 180 degree turn around. She is totally comfortable with it and I'd say a pro at it (sometimes doing stuff I've only seen in pornos haha)...I think the issue was not being used to it and maybe not comfortable with giving it. But I never pushed the issue...

Mood has a lot to do with it too.

Good luck!

EDIT: You can try pineapple juice. My GF said it helped with the taste. Also meat makes it a lot thicker and adds a certain taste...so my GF says.

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Blastoff9600 · 08-27-2003, 05:59 PM

First you should consider stop counting on how many times she has given and you have given...kind of useless to do that because that is like keeping score. Keeping score is never a good thing when it comes to a relationship. It woud be like saying well I paid for dinner this many times so she needs to pay for dinner this many times. Kind of silly to think like that. When it comes to sexual acts it shouldnt come down a number.

Another thing you can do is talk to her about it. Offer to wear a condom flavored or nonflavored to see if that will help her. Second dont be upset that she cant wait to spit your semen. It doesnt have to do with her love for you. Chances are it has to do with a taste and feel issue. I use to spit when it came to my Dh's semen because the feel of it wasnt that great. He was never offended by that and would even follow me into the bathroom or hand me the towel to clean up with. When I did start swallowing he was shocked and even to this day tells me I dont have to. Even after I swallow I head to the bathroom to rinse my mouth because the feeling is gross.
Honestly take a few mintues and taste yourself to see how it tastes and feels in your mouth. You might be a little more understanding of your gf feelings when if comes to giving you oral.
You can also stick to your approach of you wont do it if she wont do it. But talk to her about it and explain how you honestly feel.

kth911 · 08-27-2003, 09:12 PM

Well, I didn't mention the number of times to say I've done it more for her. I was just trying to let you guys know how many times we've done it. Lol, and I did follow her to bathroom and give her my towel...hehe. Remember, I've never climaxed in her mouth and I wouldn't want to. I'm just saying that if or when we do it again, I would like for her to have fun and not want to run to the bathroom every second, thats all.
We have talked about it numerous times, and she just doesn't like it, I guess there's not much I can do.