porn is evil? - Sexual Health - Teens Message Board

euroboy86 · 08-19-2003, 08:42 PM

Hey ppl, I just wanted to know out of all the people currently online what they think about the effects of pornography?...i mean i've been into pornography since i was say 14 years old...first it started with the softcore stuff, but now its bad, i'm 17 and i'm aroused by things such as rape, beasiality etc. i know this is extremely wrong but i dont know.. that is what is currently turning me on...do you think that if i stop with pornography all together and masturbation which i have been for the past 4 days, that i could go back to normal, because currently i have many opportunities to take up with girls that are very very attractive and are up for a bit of fun with me...but i'm worried because as i posted before i had a problem being aroused by a girl laying there infront of me wanting sex..someone please reassure me that i'm only young and that i can return back to normal...which is all i really want right now in my life..TO BE NORMAL AGAIN!!....any of your thoughts would be greatly appreciated..thanx

WilliamP · 08-19-2003, 10:17 PM

Technically your condsirired addictied to sex. Although you may or may not have had sex

orion · 08-19-2003, 11:37 PM

I don't think porn is evil but it sure can screw you up pretty good if you obsess over it.

I doubt you can stop masturbating and I wouldn't recommend trying because you are pretty well bound to fail that one. But you could cut back to once a day and stop looking at porn all together. I suggest you follow the same rules as they use for young guys hooked on sex and violence.

1. no thoughts allowed about force or submission

2. no thoughts allowed about anyone more than 3 years older or younger than you.

3. no thoughts allowed about "grooming" someone, that is thinking about how to manipulate someone to do something they might not otherwise do.

If you start thinking any of those kinds of thoughts, you just say out loud, "STOP"! Then change your thinking.

So that leaves all kinds of thoughts about great sex stuff which you can work into some nice fantasy if you like. It might take a while, but if you lay off the masturbation a bit, then you will be pretty ready when you finally do it. Your mind is a powerful instrument but it easily falls into a rut. So what you do is drop the porn rut and force it into a new direction. It might take a bit of thinking, but pretty soon you will look forward to your sessions again, where your mind is free from the porn images and more focussed on people you know and would like to know better.

Reducing your masturbation will be a bit hard, so I suggest you set up somethings to keep you busy so you don't much free time. That way when you finally get to bed you will have lots of energy to play with.

[This message has been edited by orion (edited 08-20-2003).]

Eeyore II · 08-20-2003, 07:43 AM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by orion:
[b]I don't think porn is evil but it sure can screw you up pretty good if you obsess over it.

[This message has been edited by Eeyore II (edited 08-20-2003).]

Porto guy · 08-20-2003, 08:31 AM

Porn is not bad. In fact, I dont think u r abnormal or anything. 4 me u seem to be feling realy guilty about been turn on with the very hard stuff, and that shows that u know what s rigth n what is wrong. Its ABSOLUTELY normal 4 u to feel urself geting exited when u see or think in ANYTHING that involves sex, even rape. Rape is absolutely one of the worse things a man can do.But theres a big diference between feel exited 4 something n and feel the urge or the will to do something. U have to respect the freedon of every single been, and thats it. I beleave it would be good to u if u could just go back to that soft n harmless porn, instead of the violent things. Violence is no good to anyone, if its conected to sex, even worse, and yes, this can ruin ur mind, but theres no point n stoping masturbation or even do it less, and u dont have to stop seen porn, just reform the subject of ur porn reserchs and stop looking for violence in sex...u r fine!