I can answer your female question...
From my experiences, the ribbed and studded condoms don't make a noticeable difference, BUT other people say they do... so you may have to try them yourself.
I have seen a female condom but couldn't bring myself to insert it. I hate inserting anything.. even tampons. But I have read that you can get a lesson from you doctor on how to put it in correctly, if necessary. They are also supposed to make loud noises.
I remember reading they are less effective than male condoms, but only slightly.
I think the main thing would be removing it without spilling the sperm inside you. I don't know.
I would just try and get your boyfriend to wear a male one. It is a lot easier. And less intrusive for you having to put one inside of you.
If you put one on for him he should have no reason to complain.
And if not use condoms, what else do you use?
When I went on the pill my bf thought that meant he wouldn't need to wear condoms. I like having the extra protection.
If you have to take a pill each day he can wear a condom, if that is what you want.
[This message has been edited by Greenoctopus18 (edited 08-12-2003).]