I have a problem with my gf, I feel sexually frustrated since she doesn't want to have sex often.
We are 20 yrs old and we live with our parents, we can do it once a week because of $$$ for the motel, however we do it about twice or once a month because she is never on the mood, arguing she's to busy in school, or a friend of hers almost got pregnant, or next saturday she has to wake up early because of meeting, or whatever other reason, but it doesn't make sense because first she tells me something and then she tells me other thing.
We normally do it on fridays but we could also do it any other day in the motel since she finishes classes at 2pm, her mother believe anything she says like going to cinema or whatever, we could also do it quickly in her house, her mother works and is out the whole time.
I mean for me it is obvious that my gf is not that busy and want=can.
But she just doesn't seem interested very much on sex, all the time we always in situations where we could easily make out a little, ex., we, alone, in her bed, mother comes back in 4 hours, but she is not interested.
I asked her once if she ever masturbated in her life, and she said no, she just didn't feel interested on masturbation she said.
We've fight so many times about me not feeling loved and her lack of sexual interest, etc. and she never lighting the fires and she said she had fights with previos bf because of the same reason.
By the way we both lost our virginity together.
For her lack of interest I am starting to suspect she has low libido, and yes she is on the pill but she was like that be4 the pill so I don't think I should blame the pill. However I also have doubts about low libido since she gets very wet when having sex, and gets lots of orgasms, even g-spot squirting.
I don't know whats going on, I really love my gf and wanted to marry her in a future, however I really feel sexually frustrated and I am concerned on her lack of interest towards sex. I love her but I don't want to end up like the guy on american beauty, I really wish there would be another solution than just ending our relationship. Any ideas?
I'm sorry I can't give you any advice beyond just trying to talk with her to get to the bottom of what is making her not desire sex that often.
May I ask you to perhaps change your user name as you have just begun posting here and, with the exception of the period, our names are the same. I am concerned that people will confuse our responses. Thanks.
Well I am asking for advice because I have talked to her about 8 times, and this is the historial:
At the begining was only making out, making out was hard to do, even being the both of us alone, in her bedroom, with her mother comming back in 4 hours, she would completely ignore me, and act silly if I would try to touch her, etc
In our different discussions here is what she says on making out and sexual act:
1. I don't know why I act like that
2. I don't want this to become a sex based relation
3. Perhaps is a truma from not having a dad
4. My previous bf wanted to make out everyday
5. I have lots of work at school (yeah right, that explains why drinking in a bar and comming home at 2 am is normal under stresful situations)
6. My friend almost got pregnant and that made me had performance anxiety (this she told me after she found out that I was really sad, but before she said n.5)
All these excuses have been in the 8 times we've talked about it.
For MrNice: I can't change my name, I've been kicked out of these boards about 5 times and I don't even know why, but name was involved in 2-3, they are really intolerant here (don't kick me for that comment)
Getting banned from here is nothing new for most of us so don't take that personaly. Most of us just wait out our suspension and then go back to posting trying to be as careful as we can about following the guidelines. My question is why do you feel you need to have sex more often than your girlfriend wants to? Remember there is no magic number for the amount of times you should have sex in a week or a month. Why not be content with the fact that you at least have a sexual relationship with your girl and work on ways to satisfy yourself when she isn't in the mood. If you pressure her less I am betting you might actually get more sex since you have taken the pressure off her to do it. Also living at home does not make ideal conditions for having sex unless the parents are away for a weekend. Motel sex isn't always fun either although it can be.
Well I know there is not a normal number of times, etc. However we are young and do notice that its been a while since we don't make out.
I talked to my gf and we found out that be4 the birth control, she was just weird about making out, cuz she was kind of new, however we both agreed that now with the birth control pills, her libido has become non-existant, and that she wants to do it but feels something holding her back, and didn't know why. I told her her libido disappeared, and she said yes.
We are going to the gyno so that he will change her pills. She is using Diane-35 and definetely it exterminated her sex drive.
One question.........
Is it possible for a person who was losing her libido with diane-35, to get it back with another brand?, or these kind of women never get it back with any birth control pill?
Low Libido on my girl? not sure 
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