Can orgasm by myself but not with men :s - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

GoodGirlNow · 09-20-2003, 09:19 PM

Hi all!
I know am not the only one with this problem, but that doesnt make it less of a concern. I'm 23 yo and I have no problem reaching orgasm when i masturbate, even only by rubbing against the bed. I also have more powerful vaginal orgasm when i use a vibrator.

That beign said, i have yet to come with a man, and I have had around 8-9 sexual partners in my life, most of which can make women come.

I used to say -and actually mean- that it was ok and that i didnt really care about not coming. But now I'm starting to think about it differently and i would love to be able to come with my bf.

Has anybody gone through this? What can i do?

thanks!

surrealmeal · 09-20-2003, 09:30 PM

bring the vibrator into it! (your relationship, that is)

mlgable · 09-21-2003, 05:56 PM

Many women do not orgasm with intercourse so you are perfectly normal. You may need to add direct clitoral stimulation during intercourse in order to orgasm or have him finish you off manually or orally after you are done with intercourse. You also need to show your partner what gets you off so that he can try some of these same techniques during intercourse.

wennybuck · 09-22-2003, 01:23 PM

I totally agree with them, but you might also be stressing about it too much. Maybe if you tried to relax and just go with the flow it would happen on its own.

mochi · 09-22-2003, 02:12 PM

I had that problem too for a while, but I've found ways that work for me. You need to make sure that your clitorus is being stimulated, being on top helps. If you feel comfortable with your partner, I would try different postitions and see what works.