Oral sex = No orgasm - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

desertdweller · 11-04-2003, 10:37 PM

I've had sex with over 10 men in my lifetime, 3 of which were long term relationships. When it comes to sex, I have no problem having an orgasm, sometimes having two in one session. My orgasms are definately are deep inside, at my G spot. My problem is I can't seem to have an orgasm when they perform oral sex on me. I have a very highly sensitive clitoris and most of what men try to do doing oral sex feels too rough and I can't even enjoy it. Even when my clit is stimulated with a finger, it mostly hurts, kind of like an exposed nerve.When I ask to have it a little more gentle, it feels good, but not enough to orgasm. When the outside of my crotch is rubbed, it feels good, but as soon as a man opens me up and plays with my clitoris, it feels too sensitive. Anyone else have this problem? My boyfriend is really into giving me oral, and is always asking if he can go down on me. I say yes, but he can sense that I don't get very excited compared to regular sex. I used to think it was just the guys I was having sex with didn't know what they were doing when it came to oral, but now I think it's just me. My girlfriends tell me how much they love receiving oral, I wish I could say the same. I wish I knew how to enjoy it more.

whosdatgirl_07 · 11-04-2003, 10:44 PM

hi,
i think this is pretty normal .. im kinda the same, i dont really like direct contact with my clitorus, it feels much better for me when its touched outside my pants, although when im having sex, its the stimulation on my clitorus that makes me orgasm... weird.
anyway, i dont enjoy guys giving me oral at all... it feels kind of good but not nearly enough to make me orgasm.
I dont think there is anything particulary wrong with us, it just differs from person to person, some of my friends hate getting oral too, whereas some of them LOVE it! its all a mystery to me...

sixx788 · 11-04-2003, 11:56 PM

You just have to teach him how you like it. It may take him a few times to get the hang of it especially if they were with someone before you who liked it rougher. I always tell him to barely touch it or touch around it. I can't stand direct contact either.

Mixedmedia · 12-15-2003, 07:18 PM

Dont flame me cause I'm a guy..and 16 at that. I'm just going by what works for me and my gf.

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Stiffeni · 12-16-2003, 08:55 AM

During oral sex I don't really like my husband messing with my clit either, but what feels totally awsome, is when he just uses his tounge inside the folds right above the hole, and uses his finger to stimulate the G-spot inside, underneath the clit... try this maybe it could work for you too.