sex with my boyfriend - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

lovethemusic · 03-09-2004, 01:23 PM

i know this may be something to post on the men's board, but i only got one response from them and it was not very helpful. maybe some of you women know what i am talking about even though this is a man's problem..here goes!

My boyfriend and I have always had a great sex life and everything always runs smoothly. we have been having sex with only each other for about 9 or 10 months now. Lately, over the past month, he has had this certain problem.....after a brief period of time of penetration, he ejaculates and the erection goes away and he did not reach a climax point or feel an orgasm when this happens. it hasnt happened too often, but im not very knowledgable about mens sexual health, and would like to know more. this is something that he has discovered on his own, and is more of a problem for him than anyone else. i just hope its not me causing this. i would appreciate any advice you have, especially based on experience. thanks

chevyman · 03-10-2004, 11:55 AM

Lovethemusic,
I don't really understand your question?

I understand you guys have been intimate for about 9-10 months? and just here recently he ejaculates to soon?

If he never did that before and now he's doing it? maybe before he was to nervous and could last longer that sometimes happens and now he's more relax with you!!! could be a number of things.....most of the time it's just an over aroused feeling and he gets in to big hurry...to sensitive maybe? try a water-based lube? lots of forplay......

I can last a long time but after I feel it coming I slow down but some times that don't help...if its going to explode it will.

or you might try masterbate him or he do it before you guys have intercourse! that might help......
Good Luck & Happy Safe Sex.

Magnetic · 03-10-2004, 01:39 PM

This is not uncommon and I don't know myself why this happens. He can see a urologist to have things examined, but I doubt anything will be found, unless possibly he has other problems with her urinary system. I am not sure what else to advise....

lovethemusic · 03-10-2004, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by chevyman

Lovethemusic,
I don't really understand your question?

I understand you guys have been intimate for about 9-10 months? and just here recently he ejaculates to soon?

If he never did that before and now he's doing it? maybe before he was to nervous and could last longer that sometimes happens and now he's more relax with you!!! could be a number of things.....most of the time it's just an over aroused feeling and he gets in to big hurry...to sensitive maybe? try a water-based lube? lots of forplay......

I can last a long time but after I feel it coming I slow down but some times that don't help...if its going to explode it will.

or you might try masterbate him or he do it before you guys have intercourse! that might help......
Good Luck & Happy Safe Sex.

ok..let me try to explain again....
its not a problem with getting him aroused....we do plenty of foreplay..thats the best part! however, once we engaged in intercourse he would all of a sudden go limp and ejaculate...but he doesnt have any warning of this....no feeling of climax...its like he finished like normal without feeling the orgasm. normally he has wonderful control over his little guy and can go on for quite a long time. this is a recently developed issue..i dont know what else to say..lol

6foot2-190 · 03-11-2004, 05:13 AM

When you say he ejaculates, is it his normal amount of semen and not just precum? What about if you give him oral or manual, or when he masturbates, would he function normally then meaning his problem is only during penetration and not any sexual release. Seems to me if things are operating normally during oral or manual, then it's just a temporary mental mix-up that will pass. But if he has the same problem with other types of stimulation it might be worth seeing a urologist.