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Old 07-25-2004, 07:00 PM   #1
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can anyone help me. I have no drive. My boyfriend is upset with me because I dont want to be intimate. We have a daughter together and ever since I gave birth to her I have no drive. I feel as if I am going to lose him because of this. We have tried just about everything we can think of. What can I do!!!!!!!!!! I need some advise and help!!!

 
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Re: no drive for intimacy

How long ago did you give birth? Are you nursing? I noticed that your nick is "tired mom"... why are you tired? I think if you give us a little more info we can be of more help

 
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My daughter will me 2 in September. I am just worn out. I now have a full time job after not workign for two years. I graduated college, have a full time job and a boyfriend who will not help out at home so I come home and take care of the house our daughter and everything else. I am just tired. He expects when he comes home everything to be done and then expects me to be ready and in the mood for intimacy. I have no drive. I feel unsexy. I dont want to lose him but I need him to help me out. He works 2nd shift, and complains when he has to get up with our daughter in the morning now that I go to work every morning. He will get her up, change her diaper, give her breakfast and then fall back to sleep on the couch and not help around the house with the dishes or the laundry. I have to do it and he wonders why I am so tired and not in the mood for intimacy.

I am never in the mood any more. I would rather sleep in a different bed than in the same one so he doesnt try and then get mad at me for saying no.

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Re: no drive for intimacy

You've kind of answered your own question. I can't see a reason WHY you'd want to be intimate with this man. There is nothing wrong with you at all and everything wrong with him. You're totally exhausted and he doesn't help you. Sex would be the last thing on my mind too. Your problem isn't how to increase your libido but how you can improve your relationship, if that is even possible.

 
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Re: no drive for intimacy

I am just worried that he is going to leave me because I am not intimate with him. I have informed him that he needs to help around the house more or else I am going to have a bad breakdown and not be able to do anything at all.
Help me I am confused and do not know what to do?

I am so exhausted I feel as if I don't know what way is up at times. I need either a break or just a vacation from everything. Would that help?

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