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Old 08-18-2004, 07:08 PM   #1
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My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore

My husband has a very low sex drive.
He used to always want to now I'm lucky if we have sex twice a month.

He went to the doctor because he has been having some tightness in his chest, turned out to be high blood pressure and his cholestorol is up a little.

The doctor also is checking his testosterone but haven't got the results back yet. He did say his chitosol was low. Whatever that is. The doctor said something about a hormone that your body produces and if you are low your organs age faster than normal.

What can I do to initiate sex? I am very shy in bed and my husband was always the playful one. Now I am going to have to take matters into my own hands.

 
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Old 08-19-2004, 06:40 AM   #2
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Re: My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore

"Now I am going to have to take matters into my own hands."
Sounds like a good idea.

But he may need testosterone supplements to have any effect. If he is fat then he may also have too much estrogen as well as not enough testosterone.

He also may be scared of having a heart attack, Some people that get high blood pressure are afraid of everything physical.

If he has the desire but not the result he may need a pill like "Cialis"

Good luck.

 
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Old 11-12-2006, 12:09 AM   #3
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Re: My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore

this is an issue that i have been beating my head over for the longest of times.

i've been with my husband for about 7 years now, just celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary. he has always had a low sex drive for a man... and i have always had a huuuge overactive sex drive for a woman... my ideal sex life would be 14 times a week! but i'd settle for 5! lol, and my husband's idea of a "sex life" is 1-2 times a month! maybe 4 times a month if he has a spike in his "sex drive"... it has been like this for a while, but recently it has gotten worse. i started a stable and secure job 8 months ago after having been out of work for nearly 2-3 years... (which i always associated his lack of sex drive to). but now that our lives are more stable, it seems that he has an even lower sex drive! go figure! currently it is down to once a month.. and another thing that irritates the heck out of me is if I ever try to initiate sex he turns me down stone cold! "i have a headache", "i don't feel good", "I don't feel like it" ***?!?!
but for me? in the past 7 years i have turned him down once, and only because i was extra special tired!!

he has no problems with "getting it up", a good gust of warm wind is all it takes sometimes!, and practically every single morning he wakes up completely ready to go. so it's not like he *wants* to but can't, it's more like his body is saying yes, please, come on, now! and his mind is saying, "nope, i have a headache" ?!?!?!?! it is aggravating... i have talked to him manytimes about it. i've accused him of everything, from: not finding me attractive, having an affair, wanting to have an affair, to even being gay and not knowing it... and we talk extensively... but nothing ever changes! i used to hate it, yet dealt with it, but now we are trying to start a family, he wants to just as much as i do, and now i am feeling rundown, hopeless, hateful, and frankly ****** off.... i just want to pull my hair out!

 
Old 11-12-2006, 08:24 AM   #4
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Re: My husband doesn't want to have sex anymore

you know honestly

i think these men need to understand taht whether people realize it or whether people want to admit it or not one of the main things that keeps marriages going is sex... that is the truth

if u look at unhappy marriages their not having sex or marriages that fell apart also they werent even sleeping in the same room before they broke up...

whether your husbands want too or not you should make a schedule you both will agree too because its not fair... thats a relationship you have to give a little. and eventually they will get used to it, true i do believe people are different some are always in the mood while others jus dont feel like it. but its not fair because its in our nature, and sex isnt something disgusting or weird to feel shy about its natural and the need has been given to us...

talk to your husbands about it and the last person you should be shy around is your husband, if you have to take charge jus do it, read up on a few books try new things wear new things whatever works...

good luck to you guys

 
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