Bleeding after sex - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

IanHud · 09-27-2004, 10:29 PM

Recently I have been bleeding after intercourse. The first time I had sex was when I was 19 and I was perfectly fine. I did not bleed and everything was ok. He did turn me on and I had no problem getting lubricated. Now I am 21 and I have a new boyfriend. Recently we tried to have sex and he was too big for me. In fact, it was kinda hard for him to get inside of me and I wasn't lubricated. It hurt so bad and then we stopped and I noticed that I was bleeding..like a lot. Then a few mins later it stopped and I even had some spotting the next day. Well, we tried to have sex again a month later and the same thing happened. Again, I was not really turned on and not lubricated. It started to hurt and he was too big for me and then I told him to stop cause I could tell that I was bleeding again. So now I refuse to have sex with him again and I'm scared and kinda freaked out. I'm gonna make an appointment to see a gyno. I'm not sure if it is something serious cause I know bleeding after intercourse can be a sign of cervical cancer. Or maybe that I was so dry something must of been torn down there. Kinda worried and would like to get some thoughts on this. Also, a friend of mine has cervical cancer and I did have intercourse with her ex-boyfriend (the first guy I slept with). Anyways, any thoughts would be greatly appreciated..thank you

reni · 09-28-2004, 06:20 AM

Trying to shove an unlubricated larger penis into you when you are not aroused of course is going to cause tearing and bleeding. I wouldn't worry that something is wrong with you. Just quit having sex with someone when you are "not really turned on"... what's the point?

The cause of cervical dysplasia (which can lead to cervical cancer if left untreated) is the HPV virus. Sleeping with someone who has had a partner with dysplasia or cervical cancer puts you at a high risk of being infected with HPV. You do need to see a gynecologist. Along with your Pap smear, ask for a high risk HPV DNA test to find out if you've been infected with HPV. If you ever get dysplasia, it is treatable. If you don't get it treated, it can lead to cervical cancer. But you have to keep up with regular check ups.

twizliz · 09-28-2004, 09:55 AM

Sometimes that happens to me when I haven't had sex in a while. It actually happened to me the other day. I would assume that it's just because you weren't lubricated and hadn't had sex in a while.

Sister · 09-28-2004, 12:45 PM

It sounds like your bleeding is from injury, but Clymedia bacteria can cause bleeding after sex.

IanHud · 09-28-2004, 02:51 PM

Could there be a chance of her getting cervical cancer without having HPV which may reduce my risk of cervical cancer and HPV?
I haven't seen her in a while and I would like to ask her this but I can't right now. As you can see, I know nothing of this. And if I do have this HPV, then I probably just gave it to my boyfriend.