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Old 12-05-2004, 09:18 AM   #1
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Question High Sex Drive

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I am a 55 year old female. My sex drive seems like it is over the top. My partner has NO sex drive. We have not had sex since 1997. I recently had sex (outside of our relationship, for two years) with a partner who loved sex. It was great. I ended that and now I feel crazed. I can only please myself so often.
I am going crazy. Any advice?
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Old 12-05-2004, 09:30 AM   #2
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Re: High Sex Drive

Actually, that is not uncommon for women who have very high testosterone levels. I have researched hormonal imbalances and I also take bio identical hormones. My issue was very low testosterone, progesterone and Estrogen so you can imagine...depressed...anxious....moody.. ..no sex drive....acne... very grouchy. But thats what the doctor explaind to me. Sounds like too much testosterone in your system. Need to see your obgyn.

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Old 12-05-2004, 11:58 AM   #3
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Re: High Sex Drive

If your partner seriously has no sex drive, isn't he concerned? Get him to go to a doctor, see if Viagra or something else might help him. If he really doesn't care or won't do it, then maybe some councelling is in order, unless he's fine with you stepping outside the relationship?

 
Old 12-06-2004, 06:02 PM   #4
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I think it's absolutely awesome that you're having great sex! I'm 28 and hope to be rocking like you when I'm your age. Personally, I wouldn't worry about any hormonal imbalance unless your sex drive is troubling to you. If it's getting in the way of your everyday life, then definitely go see a doctor. But if that's not the case, why not find another play partner? Or are you trying to work things out with your husband?

 
Old 12-08-2004, 01:03 PM   #5
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Re: High Sex Drive

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If your partner seriously has no sex drive, isn't he concerned? Get him to go to a doctor, see if Viagra or something else might help him. If he really doesn't care or won't do it, then maybe some councelling is in order, unless he's fine with you stepping outside the relationship?
Viagra only gives you an erection. It doesn't give you desire for sex. So you could slip him some viagra, he could get an erection, but if he doesn't want sex, what good would it do unless you plan on tying him up and forcing him???

I have read alot about this. It's a cruel joke on humanity. Men peak in their younger years, and women in their older years. But that's not to say your husband shouldn't have ANY sex drive....

It sounds like you need to have a heart to heart talk. I definitely would NOT suggest telling him of your "outside encounters" at this point either. Hopefully you had a good sex life during the earlier years of your marriage that he'll think is worth rekindling. Moreover, as suggested, it may take convincing him to see a Dr. to see if there are any problems.

As for what to do if you can't get him reinterested.... That's entirely up to you. I can't recommend stepping outside the marriage, but it's always a thought you could talk to him about as a simple suggestion to let him know you are VERY interested in resparking your sex life! It might just make him realize yo are SERIOUS! Who knows, maybe he'll rev up the motor and away you'll go, or maybe he'll cold shoulder you. If it's the cold shoulder, then you'll have to make the decision of whether "self play" will be enough to keep you satisfied.

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Old 08-06-2005, 06:35 PM   #6
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Re: High Sex Drive

I am 61 and have suddenly have a very high sex drive. I wonder if there is something wrong with me. My husband, lucky me, is a willing participant but it feel like a brazen hussy as I want him three times a day. I wonder if I should ask my doctor if there is a reason for this sudden change and if it is a possible problem.

 
Old 08-06-2005, 08:02 PM   #7
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Re: High Sex Drive

You go girl! Finally something to look forward to!......Now what was the problem again????

 
Old 08-07-2005, 06:17 AM   #8
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Re: High Sex Drive

Have you had your hormones, Male & Female tested since this has happened. Something may have changed to pump too much testosterone into your system.

Some women lose estrogen & gain testosterone at your age. Many men lose testosterone & gain estrogen at that age.

Sometimes it is caused by a cyst on the testicles or ovaries, sometimes it is other things. Sometime there are no bad causes.

Good luck

 
Old 08-07-2005, 08:20 AM   #9
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Re: High Sex Drive

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Have you had your hormones, Male & Female tested since this has happened. Something may have changed to pump too much testosterone into your system.

Some women lose estrogen & gain testosterone at your age. Many men lose testosterone & gain estrogen at that age.

Sometimes it is caused by a cyst on the testicles or ovaries, sometimes it is other things. Sometime there are no bad causes.

Good luck
cyst on the testicles or ovaries,

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Old 08-07-2005, 09:27 AM   #10
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Re: High Sex Drive

I never heard of anyone concerned or complaining because they have a high sex drive. I think you should just enjoy it, and be glad it isn't the other way around. I'm not a doctor, but I can't imagine it being caused by something that is dangerous like a cyst as someone had mentioned earlier.

 
Old 08-08-2005, 10:32 AM   #11
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Re: High Sex Drive

No sex with your partner since 1997? I'd check for a pulse. I am struggling with as strong of a sex drive at 47 as I had when I was a teenager and yet my wife is going through perimenopause. It's very difficult to have bi-polar drives, unless the partners are able to understand and even participate when they don't have as strong of a drive. My wife, at times will "acommodate" me even though she's not fully up to it, because she knows how I am. If I didn't have that, I'd certainly be loosing my mind.

When did his drive slow down, or has it always been slow and you've just left him behind? The two of you need a heart to heart. You're dilema is, you've satisfied a very powerful hunger. That's going to take an equally powerful amount of self control to curb your appitite or you're going to suffer inner turmoil.

 
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