No Sex Drive...mirena...help!!! - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

MartaJoy · 12-13-2004, 04:40 PM

Well, It all started 4 years ago (I was 20) after I had my son. I lost ALL sex drive. I had some complications, depression, dealing with past isshues and such. Now 4 years later after having my second child, I had a Mirena IUD inserted, and sex feels worse than ever. My husband complains of pain, feeling the string (it's very sharp), and pulling/tugging on the tip of his penis. OUCH! As for me, it is painful, as if he is hitting the Mirena and it causes abdominal discomfort. I don't know what to do, I have no sex drive, and this just makes it worse. At least before i enjoyed him enjoying me, now i have nothing...has anyone else had this problem?

What about the low sex drive...is that normal? Is there anything I can do? I feel I have tried everything from Hormone therapy to natural medicine. NOTHING WORKS!

Thanks,
MartaJoy

comeonnow · 12-14-2004, 07:07 AM

So I guess you have mentioned your low sex drive to you doctor then. The first thing I thought of right away is that your hormones are out of whack and that your doctor could probably help you with that, but it sounds like you've tried various things. Maybe you could try going to another doctor and mention this to him and get his opinion on the matter. Perhaps he can come up with a solution that the other one didn't think of? If your hormones aren't the problem, ask him what else could be causing you to not want sex very often. You mentioned having had issues in the past...I don't know what the specifics are, but maybe that is the root of the problem. Also, knowing right away that the IUD is causing problems for you and your husband, I would have that taken out. Isn't there some other form of birth control that you could take? Have you tried birth control pills? You have a low libido to begin with and then knowing that having sex with the IUD is going to be painful certainly wouldn't make you want to have sex. I have never had this problem but noticed that nobody has responded to your post yet, so I thought I'd give you my opinion, for what it's worth. I'd certainly want to correct the problem, as sex is very important to me (I'm female, of course). It's good that you at least are looking for an answer, as some women just give up when faced with this and settle for a marriage with little or no sex the rest of their married days. Good luck; I hope you find a solution.

susieq0726 · 12-14-2004, 10:40 AM

Well first of all, I have never understood why any women would use an IUD. Too many complications if you ask me, and I don't think they are that safe.
I would have that removed quickly and think of another form of birth control.
The no sex drive could be a result of a hormone issue. Talk to your doctor about running some blood tests.

MartaJoy · 12-14-2004, 11:37 AM

Well, women use it because it seemes EASY. I researched the IUD with women who had it. Most of them loved it, and my doctor never said anything bad about it either. (Why would he right?)

THere is NO safe alternatives...just read the small print. OH MAN! I guess condoms are my answer.

As for the hormones, I have had blood tests done.

Thanks for your reply.

tristarista · 03-14-2005, 09:57 PM

I wish I could offer you some advice, pretty much all I can offer is sympathy. I came here looking for answers for the same problem. I decided to get the Mirena after my second son was born, January 2004. My sex drive is just GONE. I have tried therapy, I have tried Estrogen, no help. Sex hurts, and I don't want to do it anyway. My husband is going crazy and I feel guilty and frustrated and don't know what to do. I am probably going to try getting it taken out...I was told by a nurse friend of mine that the patch form of birth control doesn't lower the sex drive like all the others(Pills, Shots, Mirena). So, I feel your pain girl and I hope this helps, maybe just a little.
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