Orgasm problems - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

OverDue · 12-22-2004, 11:32 AM

Hi,

I'm having a very similar problem, I've only had two sexual relationships, one in which I'm in now and I'm worried because I can orgasm solo while watching porn and using a vibrator on my clitoris but my guy can't make me orgasm.

I find it really hard to orgasm without stimulation from a vibrator because the sensations are too much without and my legs twitch, the sensations seem more to tickle than anything else...is there some way of calming down the twitching so I can enjoy it? Am I even meant to be twitching so soon?

It's really annoying that I can't orgasm because I really do relax myself and try to, and the more times he tries to please me and fails, he gets upset that "I won't let him finish me off".

Halls · 12-22-2004, 12:40 PM

Why don't you bring the vibrator into the bedroom with you with your man.
Halls

ItzMe2 · 12-22-2004, 01:13 PM

Using a vibrator can be a problem. It may have overstimulated you so that you need that much during sex to climax. I bought an exgirlfriend a vibrator, and she had problems during sex after (climaxing). We ditched the vibrator and she was able to orgasm during sex.

ItzMe2

chevyman · 12-22-2004, 02:35 PM

put the vib back in the dresser...do with out sex for at least a month..then get him and you guys have a nice night out dinner/good movie....go home relax ... light a few candels...and talk and enjoy each others company massages ect,ect.. cuddle give soft kisses...then when you get into forplay just take your time don't rush things enjoy the moment get passionate togather...more forplay and you will have your orgasam....I'm sure of it!

IF your so use to the vibrator/ that can mess up your sex life? (dependent)...only use it as a last chance deal and you need to be stimulated for your own sexual pleasures.
If your man can't satisfi you..then I don't know what else to say?

32 Flavors · 12-22-2004, 02:43 PM

Sometimes guys just don't know how to work the "hot spot". Everyone is different and if there's too much pressure or not enough, it just doesn't feel right. I know exactly what you mean about your legs twitching. You may have to guide him, let him know exactly what it is you want.