newbie sex questions - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

huinetaari · 03-06-2005, 03:18 AM

I've have had sex with my boyfriend 3 times now. One little question I have is just this last time, there was a tiiiiny bit of blood. It didn't seem to be enough for the hymen thing, and I certainly wasn't on my period. And it didn't continue to bleed at all. We used a condom and it was on the outside, so it wasn't his. And nothing hurt at all. Nothing has hurt any of the 3 times. My period actually started during the first time, so I'm not sure if my hymen thing broke then or not. I wasn't even sure I had one. I rode horses for quite awhile, but I thought that was just a myth. And my second question is kinda silly. I've only done it 3 times ever right, but it seems kinda boring to me. I never climax and we don't really know about to do about it. And I definitely have a high sex drive, so its not that.. Any help would be appreciated.

Pesh · 03-06-2005, 08:01 AM

well, the little bit of blood is normal for virgin to have. Your hymen may have already broken from tampons or riding horses, like u said (that's not a myth). The blood could just be from having sex for the first time - it takes your body a little while to get used to having sex, and you might bleed at first because of your boyfriend's size. Or it could have been your hymen. It's okay if it didn't hurt - consider yourself lucky!

The "boringness" of sex will go away - when u first start having sex it takes a little while for it to feel really good. When I first started having sex it took me and my boyfriend a few months before the sex was really good. You have to get used to having it, and get used to each other.

So basically everything you asked about is completely normal! Keep practicing - and make sure you are doing it safely!! Good luck!

MrNice · 03-06-2005, 09:07 AM

Most likely the small amount of blood you noticed was either from your hymen or from a minor abrasion caused by friction from the condom against your vaginal tissue. This could have happened if you weren't adequately lubricated. I'd say it's nothing to be concerned about especially if it doesn't reoccur.

As for enjoying sex it takes time. Most likely you were tense and somewhat apprehensive the first few times. You need to relax and make sure that you are fully aroused before your boyfriend penetrates you. Adding some water based lubricant like KY might help. Tell your boyfriend to slow things down and take his time so that you can enjoy the intimacy and allow your arousal to build. Better yet, have your boyfriend bring you to orgasm manually or orally before intercourse so that you will be satisfied and more relaxed and ready for more sex rather than trying to get to orgasm during intercourse.