help me! - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

RakMeHrda · 06-04-2005, 07:45 PM

ok fam!
Never have been able to orgasm during sex..i know it's real common for ladies. But help! This is going to sound really dumb for some..but i have always heard about shower heads...water massaging-clitoral sitmulation...and thats the only thing that has worked for me. EVEN trying to use a vibrator or my fingers....doesnt work... after awhile just gets me frustrated and i give up! and after awhile i mean and hour or so.. that should have been enough to make me feel something!! My boyfriend...knows about my past..no being able to have any..and it really isn't a problem because he still spends his fare share of time on me as i do him..and he knows that i enjoy what he does to me..even if i cannot orgasm. but that would just make it all soo much better if i could! email me!!
thx
Lyz

comeonnow · 06-05-2005, 12:47 AM

Did you ever try an electric vibrator instead of a battery-operated one? I think the electric ones are more powerful! I've seen several people recommend one called Hitachi Magic Wand.

cutechick · 06-05-2005, 12:58 AM

have you ever told your boyfriend about the shower head thing. I have done the same thing. Honestly keep masturbating and trying different things after some experimenting you may find out how to come. If all else fails tell you byfriend that you want him to participate with you and he can hold the shower head. Trust me he will love it and it will really turn him on. I have done it with my boyfriend and he was so turned on he came just from watching me.

namewrong · 06-05-2005, 09:17 AM

A orgasm not only comes from your vagina, but it also has alot to do with where your head is at... Are you relaxed? Ya gotta be relaxed! Do you feel good about yourself? Do you have fantacies? They could help also. Thinking about something naughty might help in turning yourself on.. Touch and explore your body. Learn what turns you on. Learn what feel'sbest to you. We are all differant. Best of luck. Peace

papermate · 06-06-2005, 03:31 PM

I feel your frustration. I too have problems with intercourse orgasms, but I'll tell you from four years practice that the Hitachi Magic Wand is awesome. I've tried all types of things, but I would rate the magic wand as a #1!