weird or normal? - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

concerned_ · 08-21-2005, 11:29 PM

i've been seeing this guy for a few months now, and we've messed around quite a few times. usually it was just foreplay, because up until a month ago i was a virgin. anyway, i had sex with my guy for the second time ever last night. during the foreplay when he was fingering me he stuck one of his fingers in my anus... i'm sure he did it on purpose because he already had one in my vagina... it hurt... but i'm weird and i enjoy pain. anyway, i thought it was kind of weird... i've been fingered by a few different guys and no one has ever done that to me. so is it weird, or normal? any feedback would be greatly appreciated. thanks!

jenna47 · 08-22-2005, 12:05 AM

he probably should've asked you if it was ok first, but a lot of people do this
i don't think it's weird... if you like it, go ahead!

sparkleflower · 08-22-2005, 05:34 AM

Totally normal. There's a ton of nerve endings around your anus, and LOTS of people enjoy anal stimulation, whether it's a finger, tongue, toy, or penis. I agree it would be nice if he'd asked, but as long as you enjoyed it and felt comfortable saying no if you didn't, I think it's totally fine. As for enjoying pain, again, perfectly normal and you're far from alone :-)

JinL · 08-23-2005, 06:11 PM

It is not normal to stick a finger up the partners anus. If you do not like it, tell him not to mess around there. If he does anyway then drop him at that time.

BostonGirl44 · 08-24-2005, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by sparkleflower

Totally normal. There's a ton of nerve endings around your anus, and LOTS of people enjoy anal stimulation, whether it's a finger, tongue, toy, or penis. I agree it would be nice if he'd asked, but as long as you enjoyed it and felt comfortable saying no if you didn't, I think it's totally fine. As for enjoying pain, again, perfectly normal and you're far from alone :-)

I agree with sparkleflower. My BF does this but only after he's asked me first.