Orgasm Question - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

KM100 · 08-22-2005, 09:29 PM

I know there are probably a lot of these types of questions ... but my boyfriend keeps asking me if I'm having an orgasm, and i think i am ... but dont know how to tell. He wants me to tell him when I have one.... how do i tell???

thanks in advance!

cynphul · 08-22-2005, 09:47 PM

You wil know... if you dont think you are then you probably havent. For me its this INSANE rush and then it overcomes your entire body and leaves you shaking.... its different for everyone however.. but explore yourself.. then you'll know

AchangeGONcome · 08-22-2005, 11:36 PM

I've never had an orgasm either. I also don't masterbate (becuase I don't know how), so exploring myself wouldn't help either. I'm not sure what they feel like, is it like pain, but in a good way?????? I understand what you are going through, but I guess you can't miss what you have never had.

balivion · 08-23-2005, 12:53 AM

I had never had one either although i thought I had, and I almost cried when i did have one. I dont know how to explain how it feels but it is not most generally a painful thing. When it happens though its not something you can control your body does it itself. Some people jerk, some people shake, some people just tighten up real well. According to the people I have been with, your boyfriend should be able to tell when you orgasm, because you will tighten up on the inside.
Touching myself is not something I had ever done either. Because I thought it was wrong. I also did not know how to do it. Kinda weird, but some people don't. I actually had to be shown how to do it, by a male. But even though i have been show, and I know how o do it, I still have a more of a problem orgasming on my own. Alo of an orgasm in my opinion is mental. Because if I do not concentrate on whats happening to my body, it doesnt happen. But that just may be me.

Rayvin400 · 08-23-2005, 12:56 AM

Get on you bed and Masterbate NOW!!! Its a great feeling, like nothing else. It is not painful, and its a great way to discover what you like. It will help you tell your partner what you want from him. If you need help on how to masterbate there are websites that can do that for you. Type in female masterbation how to as a key word, and once you get past the porn there are some great informational sites, with different styles and ideas! I also couldnt get an orgasm from sex untill about a week ago. Orgasms from sex tend to feel different from that of a self induced one. If you have a g spot orgasm, women tend to leak a clear fluid that is not urine, so that is one way for him to know that you have achieved orgasm. Also you should tell him in a nice way that his pestering you to have an orgasm is making you worried and less focused on sex, which can cause you to have less of a chance to orgasm. He needs to be patient with you and let him know that you love the way it feels even if you dont have one. He could be asking you all the time because he doesnt think that he is doing a good job unless you have an orgasm. I think that If you increase his self esteem in the bed room area, then he will be less worried that he isnt pleasing you.