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Old 10-05-2005, 11:43 PM   #1
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Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

Is it true that it's abnormal for a woman to crave sex as much as her boyfriend? Recently I was told that women have a much lower sex drive than men. But I'm a woman and I love sex just as much as any man I know, I think about it pretty much all day, I love to masturbate to porn multiple times a day, sex for sex's sake you name it. This part of their comment really bothered me:

"If a woman had a libido that could actually rival a young male's, I'd wonder if that person had a history of childhood sexual abuse, higher than average testosterone levels, brain trauma or other neurological condition, a sex addict, or a bipolar having a manic or hypomanic episode in which hypersexuality is one of its manifestations."

My libido definitely rivals any young male's that I know, this much I'm sure of. Is this person right that there is something really sick about me? Or is it normal for a woman to be just as sexual as a man?

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Old 10-06-2005, 03:02 PM   #2
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

There's a real range for 'normal' when it comes to sex drives. Men generally have higher sex drives because they have more testosterone, but there are plenty of men with lower drives, and plenty of women with higher drives. There's quite an overlap, I'm sure, so whoever told you that women should be lower than men was a little mistaken... on average it might be, but there is no rules that says a woman's has to be lower than a guys, especially when there is such a range.
True, you may have a very high sex drive, but that might purely be hormonal and have nothing to do with any abuse or bad history. Don't let that idea bother you at all. And I wouldn't worry about your high drive in general unless it is causing you problems in life.
Personally I think women have higher sex drives that people are comfortable admitting to (or at least it was that way in the past, when women weren't even supposed to like sex! lol). People were shocked to hear how often women usually masturbate, back when they first started taking surveys. And if I recall correctly, it's only slightly less often than the average male...

 
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Old 10-06-2005, 04:00 PM   #3
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

Everyone's "normal" is different. I have a very high sex drive and thankfully my bf can keep up. I was not sexually abused as a child or any other trauma I'm aware of. I just think sex is good.

 
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

i totally agree, i know i have a very high sex drive--at first w/ my bf I was afraid to make a big deal out of it--it's true, that generally we have the impression that women shouldn't want sex as much/more than men. Don't want people thinking the things that you're saying--abuse, high testosterone, addiction, nympho lol...

But yeah, I bet it's all about supression, not admitting, trying to stay within what's "ladylike", that's a great comparison about the masturbation.

 
Old 10-07-2005, 09:27 AM   #5
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

Could it be possible that you are "addicted" to sex? You probably want to laugh, but i have an addictive personality-----also a recovering addict. I think about sex 24/7.........masterbate several times a day to porn as well, and my husband has a very low sex drive!!!! Our sex life drives me insane!! I have been like this since a very young age, and really im not sure what causes it??? I enjoy being a very sexual person, but it can be a little over the edge.........There may be lot's of women out there just like us...........you never know??????

 
Old 10-07-2005, 09:39 AM   #6
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

I'm one those women who have an incredibly high sex drive too. It amazes my boyfriend, but I could just do it all the time. I personally just think its healthy, it doesn't interfere with my normal life, and if I enjoy it and he enjoys it then why should it be wrong. I think whoever you talked to mixed up their facts.

 
Old 10-07-2005, 09:47 AM   #7
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

I don't think it's abnormal for a woman to have a high sex drive, but it's not very common ( I wish it was more common! ).

 
Old 10-08-2005, 10:49 PM   #8
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

I think that women secretly do have a very healthy sex drive, but they are afraid to let that information out cause then we are looked at in a bad light. I know that I could have sex every night of the week and be perfectly happy, that is, if I had a partner. Sadly, I'm in my early 30's and the men I should be dating are also in their 30's, sex drive starts going down for them.

I say good for you and all of us who have a healthy sex drive, there are a lot of proven health benefits to having healthy and safe sex on a regular bases.

 
Old 10-09-2005, 06:29 AM   #9
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

I think it all depends on the person. I had zero sex drive with my ex.....I thought something was wrong with me! However, now I've gone back the other way totally. I could have sex everyday if it were possible! I realized that it won't really a problem with me.....I was just not attracted to my ex anymore! Why shouldn't we women enjoy sex just like men do? Were we just put here to have babies and bend over whenever our man wants it??? LOL! But seriously, there is nothing wrong with it. And I have defenitely noticed that my sex drive has increased in my 30s ( i am 37)....and I think it's awesome!!
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Old 10-09-2005, 12:19 PM   #10
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

Men reach their sexual peak at @ 18 years of age...

Women reach their sexual peak later in life, maybe in their 30's or so

 
Old 10-09-2005, 12:54 PM   #11
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

I think it is very normal, there are some that are seeking that normal too, lol. But why should there be a double standard, that women can't express their sexuality, but for men its fine??? Heck, what is normal anyhow?

We might be old, but we're not dead, lol.

 
Old 10-10-2005, 09:41 PM   #12
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

Everyone, thank you very much for your posts. I have gotten really busy but was just able to read through this whole thread. Wow! I see much that I agree with. Hopefully as time allows I can make a more fleshed out follow up to this post.

 
Old 10-19-2005, 10:24 AM   #13
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

I also have a very HIGH sex drive and think about sex all the time, I am married for almost 2 years now and we have always had a great sex life but just recently he has not wanted to have sex as often as we always have and it is starting to bother me. I feel he is not attracted to me maybe, but my sex drive is definitely there and I think it is very normal. I def. think i could beat some males with the sex drive. I guess some women's are higher than others but you are def. normal. I'm sure most women would love to have a high sex drive.

 
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Re: Is it normal for a woman to want sex as much as a man?

maybe hes just stressed out lately...it could be any number of reasons

 
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