embarrassed about air from vagina! does this put men off?? - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

nervygirly · 12-18-2005, 10:14 AM

This is really embarrassing - I've been going out with a really lovely guy for 2 months, we are sleeping together, and generally it's getting to be good. Before now I've found sex very uncomfortable, but I've got really close with this guy and we have worked out ways to make it good. There's one problem though - after sex, when I move to stand up, or just move my body even a little bit, I get repeated air from my vagina. It cannot be ignored! It's so obvious and makes a noise! I'm so embarrassed. Each time it happens (like 3 or 4 little 'fart' sounds) I sort of try and laugh it off and sound as if I don't care, say stuff like 'God isn't my body so silly'. We kind of laugh together, and he is lovely about it. But I'm still so embarrassed and wish it wouldn't happen. I'm worried he is actually put off me when this happens - I don't think he would ever say if he was put off, but I hate the idea that he might be. I've talked to my best friend and we manage to laugh about it but I am getting quite a complex about it. Any advice? Is there something I could try to minimise it? At the moment i just can't control the air coming out at all!

ethera · 12-18-2005, 11:36 AM

That used to happen once in a while with my wife, though not after every encounter.

It is a bit disturbing at first, but it never really bothered me ( she did seem to be bothered by it though ).

You just have to get used to each other, just learn to be comfortable with yourself.

Just know that you are sexy.

If there's a sound, it's just another sound. There's a sound when a butt gets smacked too, etc. , or sometimes when a girl or guy is experiencing pleasure, etc.

Don't let *him* try to make you feel uncomfortable about it, because there's things you could say back to him...

keepsgoin · 12-18-2005, 12:53 PM

I don't believe this is uncommon at all, in fact some guys are actually turned on from it...I remember years ago my BFs best friend used to always talk about his GFs doing this...it embarrassed me(when he talked about it around me) but I was a kid and so was he so he didn't know any better

But he thought it was a good thing...heehee! I've had this happen on and off and I just make sure they know I'm not farting!!!!!!!!! I don't know why sometimes air is forced inside but it sometimes is...it's just normal. Some women can actually make themselves make this air come out? About a month ago, I was having this happen in the middle of sex which was kind of embarrassing but I don't think my BF thought much of it...he just said it felt kind of strange.

MommaBee · 12-18-2005, 01:35 PM

I have never felt embarrassed about this kind of thing happening. Air is bound to get in there if you have vigious sex and it has to go somewhere. You might try pushing down on you pelvic muscles before you get up and see if you can get it to come out then. Might not be as noisy.
Other than that, enjoy! Sounds like you are with a great guy!

Smoothie_Guy · 12-18-2005, 03:21 PM

Don't feel embarrassed at all! Air gets displaced, and it has to go somewhere, and then it must be released, so it is a perfectly normal occurence. I know that is easier said than done, if it means anything, I try to be very reassuring that it isn't and shouldn't be made an issue. Relax and enjoy, sounds like the two of you have something wonderful!