Masterbating..The Female Clitoris - Sexual Health - Women Message Board

skeetereater · 05-07-2006, 10:12 PM

I am a 28 yo female and have been masterbating through just stimulating the clitoris since I was 13 years old. I "discovered" my clit when I was in a swimming pool and jumped up to grab onto the edge of the pool and one of the jets hit me there and made me have my first orgasm.

I started to use running water in the tub, and then went to a vibrator. I have NEVER had an orgasm during sex and I feel it is because of this. I can not get stimulated through intercourse. Have I ruined my chances of ever reaching orgasm without a vibrator?

I introduced one in the bedroom with my husband, but he did not like the fact that HE could not get me off.

What to do? Anyone else in the same boat?

shmal · 05-07-2006, 10:20 PM

Hi Skeeter I don't think that you have ruined your chance for orgasm however I have found that I (&most of my female friends)achieve from clitoral stimulation more so then intercourse.I have also found that if I or my DH uses a vibrator (on me that is ,lol)it does seem to "desensitizes" that particular area for a while making hard to achieve during intercourse

But we're hardly talking right now let alone doing anything else

Good luck.

Losec20mg · 05-08-2006, 12:23 AM

that is the cutest story i have ever heard...

orangejello · 05-08-2006, 08:38 AM

Theres more than one way to skin a cat. You need to start thinking about the "G" spot, if you can not get off during sex from a clit orgasam then try working on the "G" spot, My GF can do both from me or toys, tell your BF not to be upset the toys are not a replacement for him they are a friend an an asset to him in the bedroom. Start having him us the toys on you together with intercoarse, the vibration and the visaul are good feeling on guys too.
Good Luck and good sex.

cookiepls · 05-08-2006, 09:24 AM

Skeeter,
You may or may not ever have a vaginal orgasm, but the masterbation has nothing to do with it. The female equivalent to the penis is not the vagina, but the clitoris. It has far more nerve endings than the vagina. The majority of women don't achieve a vaginal orgasm without some kind of clitoral stimulation too, so don't let it worry you. You're perfectly normal. With time, experience, and good communication between you and your lover, you'll learn how to get the stimulation you need during (or before or after) intercourse.