I don't know what is wrong. I am in my early 20's and we have been married for 3 years. I really don't enjoy sex anymore. It used to be great and I must say I had a high sex drive. But now it is more of a chore. I never orgasm from intercourse. I am always left unsatisfied. Even if my husband lasts forever I just end up getting dried out after a while and he is always wondering why i don't orgasm even if he lasts long. I think because he doesn't really try forplay, he justs wants to put it in. But then even if he tries kiss before hand to get started up I end up feeling "annoyed" and it is like I am kissing someone who I don't like and it is a turn off. The weird thing is we don't have any marrital problems or even fight. Most of the time his way of initiating sex is to just start touching me out of no where like when I am watching TV or doing something. And I don't know why but that really irritates me. I don't like to have him just come up and grope me out of the blue. Does anyone else feel this way? Maybe I am not in love with him anymore? I noticed the lack of passion after we had my son who just turned 2. I can not have sex for a week and it doesn't even phase me. I really don't think about it. It is almost nice to just not worry about it. Any knowledge on this would be appreciated.
you know people change.. you change, I change, we all change... so dont expect anything.. this word is big >>EXPECT<< Have you guys got anything in comon ?? What do you both like to do, activities, outings, etc..... Maybe you love him less... things change but, things will come back to normal.. Tell him the way you feel too.. and, maybe tell him to take it easy with you.
Communication is the key in every relationship. Tell him how you feel, but I honestly don't believe things just start going down hill. Are you absolutely sure nothing is bothering you emotionally because that can really play a factor in everyday living?
Well lets see. He is gone at school all day and usually has to study at night. I am home with my son. When he is free, we like to watch movies go out to eat ect.. I guess if we ever want to go out alone we have to find a babysitter. We like the same music and both have the same personality to some degree. I think the only thing that REALLY bothers me is I feel he doesn't help me keep the house clean. Like when he is home he just wants to sit around and watch sports. He isn't great at cleaning up after himself. And I feel like whenever he helps with our son is when I ask him to. At least he doesn't refuse, but at the same time it would be nice if I didn't have to ask all the time for him to do anything. I have talked to him about this everyday and he always says he will do better but it is all talk with no results. I don't know someone told me that you shouldn't nag men because it makes them listen even less. Maybe thats why I don't enjoy sex with him? Another annoying thing is that he always wants me on top when I don't even get anything out of being on top at all. To me it is uncomfortable and absolutely pleasureless. And he still asks me. When that is really selfish because if he is going to enjoy it and finish either way then why can't he be on top so I can at least like it a little bit.
I'd refuse to go on top if it's only good for him and not you....that's very selfish of him. Plus, he doesn't do any foreplay for you which is also selfish. I would tell him you are not interested in sex b/c it's only good for him and that if he's not willing to do what you need for it to be mutually satisfactory, he can go please himself. If you continue to just let him use you, sounds like he's perfectly happy with that arrangment. YOu need to stand up and insist on it being a two way street from the pleasure standpoint or just refuse all together. Of course, I'd be delicate about how you say all of this b/c he might not realize how selfish he is being.
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